My husband and I have moved into an apartment that has 2 bedrooms, so my baby has his own room. I don't know if I should use a monitor or not during the night. Part of me thinks that when he really wants to get up he will let me know, but the other part of me knows that I have not ever let him get real upset in the morning. Would I be ruining his trust if I don't get him as soon as he is awake? I want him to trust that I will be there for him.
2006-08-02 01:54:34 · 11 answers · asked by Alison 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You are a good mommy so trust yourself. And if he doesn't like the way he has to wait an extra 30 seconds in the morning he will let you know. My children are really sweet morning babies as well and I have had them next to my bed and in their own room at all different ages. They are still good morning babies. If a monitor makes you more comfortable then use it. If you know you'll hear your baby without it then just leave doors open. You won't hurt his trust. You are his Mommy, and you have always gone to him as soon as he is awake and in need of you. Him being across the hall isn't going to change any of that.
2006-08-02 02:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a two bedroom apartment, you don't need a monitor. You'll be able to hear just fine as it is. If you have a two story, five bedroom house and you're out working in the garden, THAT'S the only time you really need a monitor.
With a baby monitor, you'll spend a lot of time agonzing over every little breathing sound, and whether the monitor is working, and you'll never get any sleep. If you rush into his room as soon as you hear the tiniest waking sound, then you'll never give him the chance to go back to sleep on his own--which may be just what he wanted to do anyway, before you interrupted him!
The whole point of wanting your baby to trust you is so that he's okay if you're not there every moment. If you ARE there every moment, then what's he going to learn? Trusting you is about learning to trust himself, too, and that will be one of the greatest things you have to teach him as a parent.
Don't leave him in there screaming for ten minutes, but it's okay to give him a few moments of quiet babbling, playing with my toes time before you start your day together. (But you'll even hear that from your room down the hall.)
2006-08-02 02:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the monitor is an excellent idea. Even is you know you can wake up to his crying, you never know when you might fall into a deep sleep and not be able to hear him, nor your husband as well. I use them and find them to be very helpful. They're relatively cheap as well, probably around $20-$30. And the handset is portable so you can carry it around the house. Give it a try, and if you find you dont like it or really dont need it, at least you tried :)
2006-08-02 02:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monitors pick up the tiniest sounds, so odds are as soon as he starts stirring in the morning you'll hear it in time to get to his room right away. He won't think you've abandoned him as long as you don't take forever getting up and going to his room. My monitor even picks up sounds in the room next door, so I'm sure that you will be able to hear him waking up in the morning (or in the middle of the night) in plenty of time to come in and comfort him. Sounds like you are a very good mommy...keep up the good work!
2006-08-02 02:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will trust you regardless of whether there is a monitor or not. I'm facing the same dilemna myself. He should be fine for that extra 30 seconds, but will you be able to sleep/rest if you aren't able to hear every wiggle. It's a matter of comfort and peace of mind. I'm opting for the monitor myself. Good luck.
2006-08-02 03:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by pjt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you will be there already. Your his mommy. I would get the monitor but I am a little freakish I worry about other things happening to him that you may not be able to hear. My biggest fear is my baby is going to roll over and suffocate on his blanket. Silly I know but thta's it. I feel if I haev a monitor in there I have a better chance of being there if he needs me. That's my opinion
2006-08-02 02:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get a baby monitor if you like. I don't think it will ruin his trust in you if you don't run right to him however.
2006-08-02 01:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a monitor. Your a mom, you have mom ears. You'll listen and hear everything. If you would like to get one for say when you go outside or on a vacation, etc. it would be convienent.
Good Luck!
2006-08-02 02:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by a.kranz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is far enough away that you can't clearly hear him before he cries, then use a baby monitor. Why should he have to work himself up to a full cry when he doesn't have to?
2006-08-02 02:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband will be fine without the monitor.
2006-08-02 01:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋