I got divorced in 2003 following a 2 year marriage. As time has gone by, I've gradually 'forgotten' what my ex-wife looked like. I naturally destroyed all material evidence of her brief and bleak presence in my life. All I have now is a blurry memory of the past. Is this natural? I'm concerned that I may bump in to her and not recognise her. Should I care?
2006-08-02 01:51:22 · 16 answers · asked by ʎǝ1ʇʇnɯ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ofcourse you shouldnt care.....she's in the past,let her stay there.....there is no reason why you should remember what she looks like....maybe you should be grateful that you dont
enjoy the rest of your life
2006-08-02 11:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by julie w 2 · 16⤊ 0⤋
Can't tell you if it is OK or not but I know what you mean. I feel like the 7 years I spent with my ex-husband was a dream now. I can't really remember him or the things we did and 8 years on I feel like a totally different person. We don't keep in touch and I have no photos of him, the only thing that remains is my divorce papars and one picture of me in my wedding dress - even my surname is the one I was born with!
2006-08-02 02:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what she looks like. Perhaps you forgot why she is an EXwife also? If you are that bad in need of seeing her do some research on the computer and see if she has web pages or hire a private dective. Personally I think you need to move on.
2006-08-02 02:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly normal. Why would you want to remember her after you have divorced and gone seperate ways? Think about the future and not the past.
2006-08-02 02:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it particularly unusual not be be able to conjure up a picture in your mind. memories are multisensory and you can be reminded of people and situations by things you see , smell or hear . I'm sure you'd recognise her if you saw her though.
I think it just means that you have moved on
2006-08-02 02:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you subconsciesly blocked a bad memory or bad period in your life.I wouldnt worry about it you have moved on there is a reason you got divorced probaly dont want to remember her any ways
2006-08-02 01:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre lucky! i divorced my husband 8 years ago and despite destrying photos,etc i can still remember him. do you have any kids? kids are good at reminding you of your exes. maybe they have a up to date photo of her for you to see so you'll recognise her if you see her.
2006-08-02 02:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like something out of a soap-opera! have you been on the booze these past 3 years?
2006-08-02 01:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U actually have not forgotten her. Why, otherwise, u explaining asking this question?
2006-08-02 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by The curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if things were that bad I'm sure she will remember you
& you will remember her once you see eachother
& yes it's natural to not remember her, your mind
does not want to, so you don't
2006-08-02 02:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋