My boyfriend of 8 months just proposed. Yes or No?
2006-08-02 01:44:01 · 41 answers · asked by mel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes if you are ready. No if you have to ask this question.
2006-08-02 01:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 5 years now and when we got married we had only been together for 6 months. If you are asking the question then the answer is NO. You will know when the time is right. Don't rush into it. Marriage is till death does you part. People are divorcing to often these days. Spend a little more time working on the relationship and enjoying each other. Then when the time is right you will know it. Good Luck
2006-08-02 01:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wilma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be weary. I was 22 when I got married after 13 months of dating. Big mistake! He swooped me off my feet, and then ended up cheating on me, abusing me, and was constantly lying. My other girlfriends that got married at that age ALL are divorced, and regret having gotten married. If you want sorrow, and a lot of life lessons, go ahead, and take the plunge. However, no matter how wonderful it may seem right now, be VERY VERY careful, and ONLY look out for yourself. You cannot worry about his feelings. He will recover. You however, may not. Especially after you have spent thousands of dollars on a wedding, and turn yourself over to a therapist for the next several years. I have since found love again, and you will eventually find the right man. Not to say that this currant man could not be him, just give it more time, the colors will eventually show.
2006-08-02 01:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"sorry. but I think its too soon for that committment, and we should have a year or 2 engagement before.
do you both have full time jobs?
and here are some questions before marriage that other married people didnt ask or was afraid to bring up before marriage.::
how much sex would each of you like to have?
how many children? how long before having children?
how and who pays what bills? if splitting in 1/2 make sure each knows the exact amount
who will cook and buy groceries?
how often do each do household chores and who will do it.?
do either go to church?
what do each expect with quiet time or time together?
time spent with family and friends?
is it ok to have guy friends or women friends?
how much affection do each like to receive from the other?
these are just a FEW of them that I have seen that breaks up a marriage. and be VERY honest with the answers. IF YOU ARE NOT , THE EXPECTATION OF MARRIAGE WILL DISAPPOINT ONE OR BOTH OF YOU.
there are other questions you might to ask each other. and write it down so there is no guessing!!
2006-08-02 01:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a long engagement? You can still get to know each other better, and be sure you're doing the right thing when you finally do tie the knot.
Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment. It's worth taking the time to be sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-08-02 01:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is only a measure of ones ability to get to know something or someone, therefore it has nothing to do with if you are ready or not to be married. I dated my now wife for 2 months, but from the moment I met her I knew that she was the one, and never looked back. If you feel the same and same goes with your partner for life, then go for it and may your lives be filled with many blessings. But if there is an iota of doubt, then dont, because your relationship may need more time to grow.
2006-08-02 01:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Perhaps I love you more 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only knew my husband for 4 weeks before I moved from Australia to Canada to be with him and 3 months later we were engaged and a year later we were married and 8 years later we are happy and have 3 kids. If it is right it is right... good luck....
2006-08-02 02:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you want to get married now or not is not the question.
If you have already been around him for eight months and don't know if he's the right guy for you, then break it off. If you feel right now that you can forsake all others for the next 75 years. Call him NOW and say yes!
2006-08-02 01:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally say NO, that's not long enough. There is no way in 8 months you can learn half of what you need to know in order to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person!
2006-08-02 01:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, my husband and I only went out for 2 months and decided to get married, he was 30 then so that might have had something to do with it, I was 22 and we're still married!
2006-08-02 09:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by Redbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this question online then the answer would have to be NO. That answer should come from within not from others. It doesn't sound to me like you're old enough to decide this right now because you haven't had enough life experiences. I've been divorced twice and I know an answer like that won't come from other people. You figure it out on your own.
2006-08-02 01:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋