i split with my ex wife over a decade ago and we have a daughter together. but i cant do anything right and she keeps rubbing it in my face that i am a 'part time dad'. i would like nothing more than to be there for my daughter all the time. i pay child support and also try to treat her when i can afford it but i can never win. my daughter understands and just loves to spend time with her old man so im really lucky there.
2006-08-02 01:38:28 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
keep being there for your daughter its the most important thing. i know it hurts but in time if the ex wife keeps on at you then she will ruin her own relationship with your daughter and push her more and more towards you
2006-08-02 01:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by chris 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
thats just the way it is im afraid. your lucky that your daughter loves you both and wants to spend time with you as a father. When splitting from a long term partner it can be very hard, i dont have children and wasnt married, but i can totally understand how horrible it feels. My ex turned pretty nasty when we split last year. Why does she refer you as a "part time dad"? Its not your fault you split and you dont live together anymore. what does she expect?! to camp out in the front garden so you can see your daughter all the time? Your doing the right thing in being there for you daughter. Love for your ex wife might have gone bu it will never go with your daughter-remember that!! If she is all that matters in your life, then whatever your ex wife thinks means shite to be honest! She doesnt see how great you probably are with your daughter, and i pity her. You seem like a caring, generous father and dont let your ex wind you up or screw up your feelings for your daughter! you might not be involved in your ex wife's life but you still have a daughter together hope this helps, and things work out for you! :-)
2006-08-02 03:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad and mean is your ex wife for been so cruel to a man who loves his child and would do anything he could to be with her all the time, is she jealous of the relationship you and your daughter have, perhaps she has tried to bad mouth you to your daughter and her spite hasn't rubbed off on her and done what it was supposed to do, so OK your a part time dad, maybe you should ask her if you should give your job up and stop paying her the maintenance she gets off you each week/month, bet that would shut her up big time, if she had loved you like she said she would when you took your wedding vows then you would still be a full time dad wouldn't you, ignore her bitterness and just carry on been the fantastic dad you are, your daughter loves you for who you are and I so wish I had a dad who loved me as much, just stop giving your ex your ear to bend, smile at her and ignore her that will so annoy her big time, be happy and just be yourself.
2006-08-02 02:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex wife no offence is a B*tch. You pay child support to support your child which means, you shouldn't be having to buy alot for your daughter... Treats are nice but when paying child support most of the time you dont have the extra money to buy big things, and most likley the only reason she can afford stuff is because of the money you give her.... She is just to full of herself and thinks she is prefect... As long as your daughter understands and loves being with you, dont worry bout the ex
2006-08-02 01:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably jealous becuase your daughter does love you and enjoys the time you spend with her, becuase you two have history, its the only way she can deal with it. Kepp up what you are doing you sound like a good dad to me, and at the end of the day, you have your daughter and she is the most important thing. Ignore your ex and she will soon leave you alone.
2006-08-02 01:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there another man in her life?
If not that could be the reason. At any rate
I'm guessing she is unhappy and still blaming you.
Maybe she still loves you, that would be a big reason for the way she is.
Sorry, I don't really know what the solution is, but Hey! Your daughter sounds great.
2006-08-02 02:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are usually cruel to someone they once loved because they are hurt. I am assuming your ex wife is still hurt because of the failed relationship; she may not act hurt when you see her but I think her cruel words speak loudly. From what you have said you are doing all the things you should be doing. Your ex wife is just saying things she knows will hurt you. She may continue to say those things until she gets over the pain of the failed relationship. I suggest just ignoring her when she makes those comments.
2006-08-02 01:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're daught loves you and thats what counts the most .I think you're ex should be overjoyed at the fact that you love your daughter and that you are a part of her life.I personally think that she has unresolved issues about the two of you and the "part time daddy " remarks are a way to get you angry and to see how far she can push you
2006-08-02 02:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by ann w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as the daughter is on your side who cares? My mum and dad hate each other, but that doesn't change my relationship with either of them (in fact when one attacks the other I think less of the attacker).
Don't worry, ex wifey is just being bitter.
2006-08-02 01:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what your ex thinks, what matters is your relationship with your daughter. Remember never to do any mud slinging as far as her mother is concerned and you'll be fine.
You have to remember us women like to hold a grudge ; )
2006-08-02 01:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋