what should i do if i fall in love to my friend that already has a girlfriend?

Question

help me...dont know what to do...i sometimes got jealous and that scared me...

Answer 1

a friend with a girlfriend
you love him
Ann landers!!!!?
but really....honesty is the best policy here
tell him/her

only in america :-)

Answer 2

Ok, hon, this is probably NOT a serious thing. You have a crush on somebody who is "not available". It is like being attracted to "forbidden fruit". The fact that the object of your crush is already with somebody else is part of the lure. People often want what they can't have.

I'm not saying your feelings of attraction aren't real, just that you need to realize why you feel this way. Also, this is NOT real love, this is merely a physical/mental attraction, perhaps combined with a mild obsession. Real love grows over time with deliberate interaction between 2 people. It has to be tended along with a relationship.

You may want to watch your time with your crush, though. Human bonding is tricky; it tends to get stronger when 2 people spend lots of time together. Furthermore, if the object of your crush realizes your feelings, and is NOT HONORABLE, you will be setting up 2 people for heartbreak: yourself and the other girlfriend!

Try to cultivate a friendship with the girlfriend. Sisterhood is a powerful thing, and can help neuter the amorous feelings you have for your friend. If that isn't a possibility, then you may have to develop some other friendships for awhile. Give yourself a chance to find a romance that is truely your own.