My supervisor said he doesn't like me as a person, should i look for a new job.?

Question

I started this job about 8 months ago. Everything was fine until i had my apprasal and told them how my deptment could be run better. the changes i asked for we're carried out, and i don;t think my supervisor liked it, and began being a bit offish with me.
Before the comment he made i thought he was a alright guy, but now i just wanna knock him out.If i had no kids to provide for i would of done so already.
Any ideas leave or stay???

Answer 1

Yeah, that's got to be a bit of an uncomfortable work environment. I vote for sprucing up the ol' resume and beginning a new job search. Either that, or have a sit down, one on one meeting with him to sort of 'clear the air'.

Answer 2

Hmmm - I suppose that would depend on a couple of things. If you were going "over his head" when you made your suggestions (even if they are great), you may be able to diffuse the situation by taking him aside and explain you meant no disrespect but were answering the question on how to better run your department. If this "supervisor" actually told you he doesn't like you, he is exceptionally unprofessional - I would begin a log (diary) of his unprofessional comments and, if necessary, pass them onto HIS supervisor after a few months. If you could get collaboration, that would be good.
Obviously, if you need the job (even until you find another one), you need to make the work environment tolerable. Try joking with him or doing something to make him feel he has the upper hand - ask him questions and "value" his opinion. (You can smirk about it at home later!)
No job is worth your health or happiness, stress is a killer and is hard to hide from those close to you - don't let this twit damage anything else in your life.
Good luck and all the best - hope that helps at least a little.

Answer 3

Supervisors aren't there as part of a popularity contest. You are fortunate in that you know exactly where he stands, how he feels about you. Basically you have knowledge you can work with.
You suggested changes, they were implemented and now you must insure those changes are good for the company. He may be waiting for your to fail or feel the changes were made too quickly.
It isn't necessary that your boss like you or be "friends". He didn't show a very professional attitute by voicing his opinion of you. You might find it helpful to start a journal. Never leave it at work and don't make a big show of taking notes when someone else can see you. But performance appraisals are his tool to "rein" you in, or otherwise stall your success. By having notes on particular incidents, you can use those if it becomes necessary to go above his head.
You've been trusted with a position. But you aren't paid to worry about your supervisor. Stay focused and go forward with a positive attitutde .

Answer 4

Performance appraisal has turned the relationships with the supervisor as sour. That is what you have said. Changes effected by you have been seen by the management at a higher level than your supervisor also. So it is better to keep the matter brought to the notice of the PR about the comments of the supervisor and what has happened to you after the performance appraisal. You may have to wait until the results of the changes made are known.
VR

Answer 5

Yes, unless you think he may be moving on soon (not up, if he moves up you're equally screwed) you should start looking.

There's no shame in not having a good fit in any given position, you gave it a go, you learned things, now it's time to explore other opportunities. Be careful about the reference question, if you think he'd give you a bad one find someone in the company that would be positive.

Don't bash the jerk or your present company when interviewing and for the love of all things corporate don't knock him out! :)

Good luck to you, the world is a big place with lots of things to consider, you shouldn't stay where you are limited, especially if you don't have others depending on you.

Be really open and keep your mind open to all possibilities. Try to determine where you want to go and work towards that, even if another short term position is your only interim alternative.

Answer 6

It seems like you are working in a 'shut-up-and-just-do-your-work' place...and I get that impression that you are a person who want your opinions valued. I seriously think that you are working in the wrong place.

However, staying on is advisable for you because 1) you have to bring the bacon home 2) quitting now looks bad on your resume and your prospective job interviewers will think you are a job-hopper.

Stay on for at least one more year before you start searching for a new job. Meanwhile, lay low while you are at work coz you might need your supervisor to be your referral some day.

Answer 7

DUDE!
NO need 2 feel bad.
he may not like you as a person but thats a personal comment
if you really wanna quit this job, do it if yo uare less than 35 yrs old
if u r on the wrong side of 35 dont even dream of doing so.
you will quite probably not get a job


just a note,

if u want financial freedom
read rich dad poor dad
& rich kid smart kid
both gr8 books by robert kiosaki

Answer 8

first of al, start loking for another job kep the one you got now, i always say never leave a pay check behind if you got tons of bills flying threw the door etc, or just have a man too man talk with supervisor sit downe with him and say look, lets hammer tis thing out, you sound lke your very hard working etc, first mention you arent after him for a raise just try get him to realize what he said was wrong etc, you are in control of your own destination and your own man, dont let him push you around like that, etc tel him lk i have felings you hurt them boss iam willing too stay but wont put up with your abusess, i dont have too, if all else fails, take a look at another job then give a 2 weeks notice when you find something else just dont walk okay, its job refrences that counts here to, etc. good luck now!1

Answer 9

I would confidentially talk to his boss. That is borderline harassment. You tried to do the right thing by talking to your supervisor and trying to make things better between the two of you which would help make for a better work environment and it sounds like he did not meet you have way. Time to go over his head!

Of course - be careful and know who you are talking to because you do not want it to backfire on you. Also, does not hurt to get your feelers out there for new jobs. Always helps to have a "Plan b".

Good luck!!

Answer 10

It is always easier to find a job when you have a job. You have to weight the benefits of staying. Can you find another job with equal or higher pay? Do you think speaking to your supervisor will be effective? How long do you plan to stay with this company? Is this for experience or a career?