I just don't feel like we are, well, friends, anymore. We went out recently for a night out and we hardly said more than 3 words to each other. I tried to make conversation but they just weren't interested. They can be very frustrating. And in the time when we haven't seen much of each other (about 2 months) they have changed sooo much! One seems to have got awfully thin, anorexic-looking, and the other is sleeping around! They just aren't the people I thought I knew anymore and I feel so sad, like part of me is lost. Why? What can I do?
2006-08-02 01:11:26 · 21 answers · asked by Rox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel sorry for you gal about your situation. I really understand what it is like. It once happened to me. The best thing to do is to move on. Look for other friends. They might influence you into doing something you wanna do. I did the same when I was faced with same situation. Now Im so happy with amy new friend.
2006-08-02 01:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all your friends are growing up everyday of their lives, seemingly enough we change as well. Could it be that your friends lives have taken them to new heights and that you both dont share the same interests anymore, it could also be bad timing, that both your friends are going through some difficult times in there lives and that outing just didnt help at all. I think you should give them some time and have another outing in hopes that things will change. If not you will have to be big enough to move on, but keep the door open in case they need you one day. I know that feeling, sometimes it can hurt because you put so much time into that relationship and wonder where in the hell did I go wrong, but keep your chin up, it could turn out in your FAVOR! Aloha from Hawaii and thanks for asking the question!
2006-08-02 01:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel... You feel as if you've known them your entire life then all of a sudden they start acting differently. I know that it's sad. Try doing things that all of you enjoyed before. Talk about movies, good old days and everything that they are interested in. If it's still bothering you why don't confront them, ask them why all of you are acting so strange around each other, aren't you guys suppose to be friends? Ask them if something happened maybe they will tell you why.
Make sure that this friendship will not be wasted. Never give up!
2006-08-02 01:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Im sorry for what you are going through I know it's tough cause I went through it and it was not cool. I had a best friend for 6 years when things started to change I became the bigger person and let it be for awhile. And after 1 whole year of not talking or hanging out, you know the usual, my friend was the one who called. Things happen in life that you can skip. this is just a part of life that everyone has gone through. And know its your turn!
2006-08-02 01:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got alot of good answers here and I totally agree that as humans we tend to gravitate to people with whom we have a lot "in common". I know it hurts because when you have been with people whom you have known forever. It's very hard to break apart but as the others have said people change (including yourself). So you have to do some soul searching or even ask them (because sometimes we offend people unaware). clear the air and then move on if things remain the same.
2006-08-02 01:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change no matter who it is even best friend even bro or sis even parents.
they where doing something else so they got used to it and u weren't around so they forgot about u or something like that.... sorry
try to hang around more and talk to them tell them "waw u changed what did u do that u look so good <=maybe bad"
good luck everything must have talking in it and if no ones wants to hear u say it anyway, that they will hear it and if they still ignore u... i m sorry but get new friends good luck
2006-08-02 01:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me recently and it took awhile but my friends started to except me again if you are away from your friends for a long time ya'll don't really have much to talk about take one of them out at a time and just talk to them tell them how you feel thats all you really can do
2006-08-02 01:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Groover_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change sometimes.
Given them another chance or two, see what they're really like now. Maybe you'll just have to let them go, if your friendship doesn't work any more.
It may be sad, but it's just life.
Or maybe you'll just click back into the old friendly familiarity you used to feel, despite how they (and you) have changed.
2006-08-02 01:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Wax Crayon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months is a long time... is it them, or is it you, maybe you have changed and you just haven't realised it.
Keep in contact with them though, because you'll regret it with them, see each other more because you might drift apart again.
Talk to them about it, they might feel the same way...
2006-08-02 01:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋