My partner and i have been together for 1 year plus and he did tell me about being engage, he even trying to save up. We have been co-habitant for 1 year. But i find that he still like to go out to drink with his friends once or twice every week, does this mean he's still playful and not stable yet eventhough he's making a little effort.
Till now i still don't know if he's marrying me next year as im told.
2006-08-02 00:49:48 · 11 answers · asked by barelyahrie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has not proposed to you formally and given you a time frame for your wedding, you have nothing. Yet he seems to have everything that a marriage can give without the commitment. He has no reason to change anything. It is great for him to keep his options open and have the best of both worlds.
You need to have a serious talk with him. He must decide. If you have a gut feeling that if you rush him, you will loose him - then you know, you are on thin ice anyway. Is this what you want? He can afford to wait to ensure there are no better bets before he decides, but can you? Not only is your biological clock ticking away, your chances of finding a respectable man is also fading by the day.
Don't be afraid of what his decision will be, just get one from him.
2006-08-02 01:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every guy is different in this aspect. There is no standard in determinign if the guy is ready for marriage. But do look out for the obvious signs. They are as follows:
1) When he bring u to HDB to look at showflat or ask U if u want to see any resale flat.
2) When he bring U to a jewellery shop and ask for wedding rings for both of u.
3) Ask u on the type of marriage u want. (How grand or simple is it)
4) When he bring u to a bridal shop and look at a wedding package and get the package if u like it.
If there is any such symptoms, I think he is ready for marriage. But not all guys will apply all the conditions.
2006-08-02 04:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know that you are going to get married then you have problems. That is something that you should be openly talking about if it is going to happen. You should feel comfortable enough to talk about it otherwise you are not ready to get married. As for his friends, that is normal. My husband still goes out once and awhile. Only once every three weeks though. But I am sure that he is no hurry. WHY SHOULD HE? He already has what he wants with no strings attached, you there, in bed, and cleaning up everything.
2006-08-02 01:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask. You are in the relationship, too, and you have the right to know if you're headed in the right direction. If what you want and value is marriage and he's not into it, you have to come to a compromise or hit the road. It's taken me a long time to meet a man I love and want to marry...I refused to waste time with guys who didn't want the same things I did. So just put it right out there!
2006-08-02 00:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what it is he wants from the relationship! marriage, kids etc.... It is the only way you will know for sure what he wants. But you need to remember that when you are married he is entitled to time with his mates and time without you, you cant have him to yourself for 24 hours a day all the time. That just would not work. Good luck
2006-08-02 02:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by noone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to this stage, you should take this opportunity to ask him to kick the habit of drinking and save more money for marriage. Reduce the twice a week to once a week with his friend. Thus, observe his feeling and behaviour towards you. Hence, decide for yourself whether he is worth your love?
2006-08-02 01:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still want to go out drinking with his friends when you are married, this is quite normal. As to the uncertainty, just ask him outright to set a date, that should shake him up a bit.
2006-08-02 00:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Courage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's reasonable for him to still meet up with his friends,just like you will still meet up with your girlfriends for shopping during weekends occasionally. It doesn't mean that he's not stable.
2006-08-02 01:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by blossomteo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he's ready when he gets down on one knee and says "will you marry me?"
2006-08-02 02:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY YOU CAN ANSWER THAT QUESTION!!! HE'S YOUR MAN, AND DON'T GO BY ANY OF THESE ANSWERS. FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!!
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2006-08-02 00:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by myyorkies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋