hi you guys i've known this guy for 6months now .. the first three we used to go out all the time then he had to leave to china so we ended up chating everyday for another 3months ... he is coming in a couple of days and he wants to marry me but is 6months enough to know someone? what do you guys think? his dad is talking to my dad as we speak so all that's really left is for me to say *yes*
2006-08-01 23:50:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No. 6 months, especially when you've been physically apart for alot of it, is way too soon to get married. If you are meant to be together, waiting longer won't hurt anything.
2006-08-01 23:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no! It doesn't matter if his dad is talking to your dad - the only person's decision that really matters is YOURS. If you're not sure, and you don't sound to me like you are - then don't do it - you don't have to do what men tell you anymore - those days are gone or bloody well should be ! If you ache to be next to this guy in bed - then marry him - but if not - don't - it's as simple as that! If you make the wrong decision - you will be marrying in to a lot of unhappiness - that could take out a long period of your life and all the heartache of separation, divorce, arguments with your family - if it is going to cause an argument with your family - then have it now - while you are still free and not tied into a LEGAL CONTRACT, that may turn out to be a disaster - you must LOVE this man.
And another thing, if your father is talking to his father - I'm not sure in your case - but in some cultures there is a dowry, whereby your guys father is making money out of your father over the marriage - if you don't know already - you want to check that one out too - because then greed might be involved - you have to be firm - it is YOUR life - not theirs - I hope you make the right decision - and if you decide to marry this man - I hope it goes well - but for God's sake ! DON'T do it to please your father or his !!!!
2006-08-02 07:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by beiterspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you think that you know this guy well then months ddoesnot matter....but yes if you feel that you still want some time then speak to your father and tell him that you need time
My dear freind it does happen when you go out and chat with a freind regularily you gradually get involved with him.But when it comes to marriage you get afraid and try to avoid the situation and you think that you need time. but on the whole marriage is a gamble there are love marriage and there are arrange marriages too but one cant say which one is going to long last.it hardly matters how much you know the man or woman main thing is that how much you wanna understand each other and can adjustyou gradually come to know about the person. you gradually learned about yur father and mother habbits and their choices but you dont think about them...so same happens with other people too. dont worry but go ahead with whatever decision you make.All the best.
2006-08-02 07:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know very little about this guy. There are long term things that have yet to surface that you need to know about this person. A 6 month relationship is not nearly enough time to get to know this guy. Some people take 6 months to buy a car, and you want to create a family in that short time. Don't do it, tell him you still have to get to know him.
2006-08-02 07:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by william m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear u r having a life time oppurtunity to marry a guy whom u loved once its doesnt matter thta wethere u had stayed apart physically for some time or not .
maybe he had som physical in that time with soomeone else but that was only lust and requirement.
Girl u should sy=ay yes and do send me an invitie of ur marriage....
2006-08-02 07:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say yes, but you should hold of the real wedding date until you feel that you are really ready. because if you don't he may never ask and this may be your soulmate. I believe in true love and the one love for us, so if you think that he is the one you would know. have a few days to yourself n think things over.
2006-08-02 07:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there..well..dont u think u shuld get to know him better?wel..6months..its not even gud yet to know someone..cuz u dunno what wil happen in ur future..cuz one of my friends had a same situation like u..at first they get married n at the end they get divorced after 4months..cuz there's lots of arguement between them n guess what,cuz of short term knowing each other,my fren just know that he's a play boy..to me..6months is not enuff yet to get marry with someone..so be wise..think what's best for yourself..
2006-08-02 07:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by huneyluvbaby1210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to me you should say yes
i think 6 months are enough to know a person. and also your dad
may also agree to that and if you find him good then there is no use to say no.....he is your mr. right!
so, go ahead and say 'yes'.
2006-08-02 07:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by gorgeous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should say yes
2006-08-02 07:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by ati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So say "yes" !!!
2006-08-02 06:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋