we've been together since 4 years.we are happy,we understand each other.got no big problems.
but the only thing bothers me in him is his jealousy. sometimes i feel he is over acting about it. and sometimes i feel it's sweet and nice of him to be caring that way.
but look he turns his jealousy on when it's not needed. sometimes he doesn't let me go see some friends i used to work with. sometimes he goes crazy when i get some sms from some guys i know through work. sometimes he gets bothered when i come back home late a little after work,and starta sking me stupid questions!
is it fine? what shall i do to stop his jealousy?
2006-08-01 23:01:09 · 10 answers · asked by Musty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be there for him and explain him in nice way that there is no reason to be jealous.. let him know that he is the only one for you and just tell him " you know what u r saying is not right so why do u say it?" im sure he knows u do nothing with those guys he just sometimes cant control his feelings.. when he starts that just give him a kiss and tell him to stop the nonsense and that u love him..
2006-08-01 23:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can not stop his jealousy. You either have to except the fact that he will always be jealouse, and submit to his controlling nature. Or, you must deside that you don't want to be controlled and that his problem will eventually destroy your relationship with him, and your friends. I would suggest that you break off your 4 year relationship with him, because his jealousy will stop being caring and start becoming controlling and manipulative. They call jealousy the GREENEYED MONSTER for a reason. What is bad as a boyfriend gets worse as a husband, and you are powerless to change what HIS feelings are.
2006-08-02 06:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by william m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't....it is something that he has to deal with...
but if he is posessive and controlling even mildly....watch
out.
Jealousy will eat away at your relationship.
You will not like it at all in your future..
I have had friends jealous of me (when there was nothing to
be jealous of.....) And I see men eventually leave the relationship,
cause jealousy is always a sign of guilt, insecurity, or just
plain envy......and jealousy destroys the person we love.
It eventually destroys the person.
I hope he can get help.
2006-08-02 06:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by BreezyMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe jealousy exists only when u r not sure of ur relationship.
let me explain u by taking me as an example. if i know my gal friend loves me and she's happy with me, i will not feel jealous. coz i know no one matters more to her than me.
now, its the responsibility of my gal friend to make me feel that way. she shud express her feelings and shud make me know that no one in the world is more important than me. but then she too has friends and her own personal space. i need to respect that.
if i start feeling jealous, then it means i am not sure of my love and my gal friends feelings for me.
u need to analyse what went wrong. may be u r unable to create a feeling where ur boyfriend feels u love him the most. if u had created it, then somethings worng with his attitude.
i always believe jealousy exists only at the starting stages of a relation. once its mature and stable, u shouldnt find that.
2006-08-02 06:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by fayaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
listen, I think you did something wrong and he knows about that, but you should tell him the truth, and then swear to not doing that again, soooooo, If you are horny and want to do that again, so you have to leave this boyfriend.
2006-08-02 06:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by shaheen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not showing enough love for him sumtimes during the day ur gonna have to say that i will never cheat on u ur the one for me ur the one i want to be with and no one else just tell him how important he is to u
2006-08-02 06:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by SeeKer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally fine nd there is no way to stop his jealousy
2006-08-02 06:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's his problem not yours be tough with him and tell him you don't deserve that and your not going to put up with his sh!t
2006-08-02 06:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not jealous ,its a passive aggressive manipulating way to control you
2006-08-02 06:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is you who make him jealous
2006-08-02 06:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by Deepak S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋