While away on a military course i cheated on my current girlfriend. She stayed with me but the past year has not been easy, especially for her. I am currently over seas but due to come home soon. We have a promising future together provided we can get the necessary help to assist us through this very difficult time. I am willing to do anything for her and for our relationship and I fully understand that her decision, either for or against us remaining a couple, are solely in her hands. I know I'm the biggest a@#hole in the world and I don't deserve her but I'm willing to try. Ilove her with all my heart and I will wait eternally if that's what it takes to win her back.
2006-08-01 22:36:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you tell her frankly that you have cheated but now repenting. you are to patiently wait for her response. may be your good behaviour may change her mind and begin loving you. wish you all the best.
2006-08-01 22:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Simple rule of thumb; if you can't do the time, don't do the crime.
I don't see how any assurances anybody can give to their partner after carrying on with somebody else can make any difference - betrayal is betrayal and it never goes away. And if, as you say, you love her you have a strange way of demonstrating it. I may not be the greatest romantic in the world but I do know that you don't do that to somebody you genuinely care about.
You're right when you say you don't deserve her.
Be a man instead of a Muppet and move on so she can find a decent fella. You know, the sort who will tell her he loves her and actually remain faithful to her because he walks the walk instead of just talking the proverbial talk.
2006-08-01 23:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to trust a man who has once cheated especially since youre so far away and it s hard to think that he could, maybe cheat again. i mean he did it once... but if youre one of those guys that are really remorseful then you come home take her out for a fancy dinner, buy her roses (or whatever is her favourite) and then talk to her about your feelings. i get the impression that u two have not talked much about this. you need to tell her why you did it, why you decided to tell her, why you will never do it again and how it has made you feel. tell her how much you love her and at that moment you were totally insane , beg her for another chance and admit that it was a huge mistake and tell her yourself that you will wait for her forever, time is not an issue because when you love, time is trivial-love lasts forever and no time can explain that!
2006-08-01 22:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you dope! Slap slap.
Okay...I've been cheated on...and when you love the person....ouch. It's not just heart breaking....it's a serious blow to your self-esteem. The fact that she stayed with you means that she loves you more than she does herself, b/c basic survival tells a chick to RUN when a guy cheats. Keep that in mind, and do whatever it takes to let her know that you love her.
Remember that love is not about how many times you say it or how loudly. You have to show this woman you love her. Let her ***** sometimes if she needs too....just let her get things off your chest. Sometimes guys don't realize that a girl just wants your ear more than anything. Pull out all the stops when you get home...run her bathwater, fix her dinner, buy her a pet that you know she will love and tell her it's for your future together. Take her out and don't be checking out other girls....keep your entire attention focused on her. Guys think we don't notice when they're only halfway there. Give her lots of love and lots of attention. Time is the only thing that can heal this wound. Time and your reassurance that it won't happen again. You know this woman.....you love her....do whatever it takes. And ask her what you need to do to prove your love...she may tell you herself.
Oh...but if you are ready for it...the one thing you could do is ask her to marry you. For a woman, this is a man's way of saying "I want to spend my life with you and only you, and I love you enough to show the whole world." (Just saying IF you are ready for this step.)
2006-08-01 22:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Cy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So touching. I believe if you will to send this to her in a card by mail, she will forgive whatever. She is lucky to have you as a husband to be, not for the past but for the future. We live to look forward. With what had happen and she still waiting for you, haven't it strike you head that she love you much more then you love her? Future is in you own hand, must have confident in yourself.
2006-08-01 22:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you as a female, your girl will never forget this...She may at first say say she forgives you but let me tell you this will turn around and bite you on your assets one day...You'll get in a arguement, a little tiff and you will see, it will happen...Women tend to keep a mental list, you know blackmail for a later date.
The only thing you can do is show her you love her, actions speak louder than words.
2006-08-01 23:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r so sweet when u confess u've been wrong.
as it used to be.but u may fix it a little bit.
and there is no way to convince ur girl that u won't do it again.
but,by ur heart,love,soul,tenderness,gentleness,care, absolute honesty u'll get her back AS she used to be. but believe me it's not easy. u have to be understanding and passionate and a mature lover.
ur girl loves u,but she needs time...she needs one thing... she neeeeeeds U.
GOOD LUCK... and don't 4get to tell her and remind her every day that u really love her.
2006-08-01 22:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it sum tym it will work out in the end.. but dont forget at the same tym show her how sorry u are and and let her know dat u wont do it again
2006-08-01 22:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is ...buy 200 roses...send her with a note..." Now I know what's love...Now I've realized tht I can't live without you...Now i know who has been made for me..only for me...n I swear I wont do it anymore ...trust me for the last time...if i do it again...I'm not a guy...i bet... love you tooo much...can't be happy without you..please...forgive me..please..."
2006-08-01 22:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Neal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 22:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋