Try to think more positively about yourself and say more positive things. People will appreciate you more if you're always being positive, and it will make you seem like a fun and interesting person, which you are!
Remember to look at yourself in the mirror and recognize your good points. It's a fact that most people underestimate the quality of their looks by about 25%!
Feel free to say whatever you please. It will be hard to talk out in class or at work for the first time, but once you've started, it gets much easier.
Don't let people drag you down. If they say something mean, they are obviously trying to bring you down. Don't let them, just walk away.
Be yourself! If you're shy, talk a little! If you feel uncool around people, remember that everyone was created equal and everyone is only human, even celebrities! You are just as good as they are!
Remember that nobody is perfect. Every once in a while the seemingly most beautiful and popular people get deceived or have hidden insecurities. At one point in each of our lives, we always feel that we lack something. That is the reality of life.
Join a club and make new friends.
Wear clothes you love. Being comfortable and feeling attractive in your clothes can up your confidence by several notches.
Find friends who will make you feel good about yourself. Make a point of being around people you can look up to and emulate.
Do not blindly trust anyone. Friendships break up all the time, so don't spill secrets you wouldn't want everyone else in your social circle to know should you break up with one of your pals.
Respect and commit to your partner as according to your words, and do not do the opposite.
If you still cannot build self-confidence, fake it. Pretend to be confident. You can do this by pretending, or even convincing yourself that you are superior to everyone else, but remember that in the end, you are not better, only equal.
Stick to your principles. Don't compromise just to maintain a relationship. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything.
Everyone should be able to name a few things they do well (not necessarily an expert, just average ability) or enjoy doing regardless of talent, without putting too much thought into making the list. If you find it difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too (within reason of course!) and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. Keep going until you can say something like "I love to go for walks with friends, host dinner parties and garden. My neighbors often comment about my lovely garden and my cooking gets better with each party I host!" Adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!
Tips
Exercise makes a person feel better.
Keep a positive attitude. Name 10 positive things that you want to do.
Your intelligence is always more important than your weight.
Always smile brightly and be happy.
Don't dwell on bad things.
Find hobbies and interests that can increase your knowledge and skills, or that just make you really happy. Examples: blogging, writing, designing websites, playing football.
Try to do things that will cause other people to respect you and help you to respect yourself.
Warnings
There is such a thing as trying too hard, talking too much, etc.
Pay attention to people's body language, and how they respond.
You'll notice if you're talking too much, because they will be the one listening most of the time, and you will start to notice their silence.
2006-08-01 21:52:52
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answered by Anonymous
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I have had a lifelong problem with lack of confidence and the only ares where I have been able to improve it are areas where I play to my strengths. This doesn't mean I don't try new things, but being absolutely secure does help. Other things, well, I do a lot of acting, for something short term like a party, I just pretend to be confident. I know that sounds really sad but it actually works. I have been trying to change my personality my whole life and it just does not work.
2006-08-01 21:55:12
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answered by cobra 7
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Pick a goal. Make small steps each day toward this goal. Accept setbacks as a natural part of the process. Make sure it's something which suits your abilities and isn't too far out. Work hard and when you acheive this thing you will feel good about yourself.Also, take more risks in life. Without risk, there is little chance of getting what you really want. Remember, you're as good as the next person.
2006-08-01 21:55:33
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answered by Jack Nicholson 5
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Low self-confidence takes time to rebuild. It all starts with positive thinking! Just start telling yourself you're pretty. Or tell yourself you can do something. Or tell yourself it okay to go outside if your comfort zone. It feel stupid and akward telling yourself these things at first, but later on it becomes second nature to approach new obstacles with a positive attitude. But everyone doubts themselves sometimes. When someone gives you a compliment, soak it all up. Dont let what others say to or about you stick to you. It's all about a positive self-image. :P Good luck!
2006-08-01 21:53:19
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answered by Mizzy 3
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Respect yourself
Be good at something worthwhile. If necessary, increase your skill. Don't develop any cranky expertise and don't try to set a world record about it (like eating largest number of cheeseburgers etc just to impress)
Develop "I am OK, you are OK" attitude ("I am OK, you are not OK" also works but you would be without any friends!!)
Realise that everybody makes mistakes.
Do not try to be perfect - but always do your best.
Develop keen interests in diverse fields, like automobiles, animals, astronomy, computers, etc etc and increase your general knowledge in such various fields.
Be up-to-date on current topics.
Participate in conversations, listen more and talk less but in any case speak without the fear of contradiction.
Never feel small. Nobody can get on your back unless you allow yourself.
Do all these steadily but slowly. No magic can work but only your determination. Best of luck
2006-08-01 22:13:19
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answered by nodoublespeak 2
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Okay, this answer is going to seem out there but please hear me out. The key to self-confidence is in the word "F*ck".
Think about it. If someone is screwing you over and you are too frightened to do anything about it, just think "You know what, f*ck this dude, I'm not gonna take this." Or even if there's a girl (or guy, whatever your preference) that you're afraid to talk to for fear of rejection just say "F*ck it!" and do it anyway. Because seriously, why the f*ck not?
2006-08-01 21:57:42
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answered by The Lobe 5
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Be cool, and to go walking in the early morning and take YOGA, meditation etc to improve your will power and mind power.
You can check up your self, what is your ability, what can you do and think what can I do. Before answering people be cool and politely answer.
Improve your reading ability and Know about the things as much as you done, and nobody can good person by birth, by practicing it will helps you.
BEST OF LUCk
2006-08-01 22:00:16
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answered by Somi 3
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look to have it u should believe that ur character is not that bad!
and when u deal with ppl u have to believe that they know stuff same as u do,and u may know more than they do.
talk about what u know with friends and ppl.
don't be shy coz that is the thing u don't need in today's world.
try to be caring about ur self. looking,self hygiene and stuff like that.
say what u got in mind even if u r not sure it's right coz we all do mistakes.
come on! it's not that hard... just believe that in the world u r better than millions!
good luck!
2006-08-01 22:00:07
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answered by Musty 4
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Whatever it is that you want to do, practice it until it becomes second nature. It's like playing an instrument. Once you get the hang of doing it, you become confident in your ability. Whether it's speaking in front of people or getting that job, practice and you will become confident. <*)))><
2006-08-01 21:54:26
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answered by Sandylynn 6
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first realize that you are worth it,
second realize that by speaking to ppl, or being more out going will benefit you
third, realize that ppl wont hit you so open up,
fourth, ask questions, knowledge is power, and power is confidence
2006-08-01 21:49:39
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answered by Dawn C 5
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