we really love each other alot but he is a white and i am an indian.my family is totally against it and i have no support..what do i do?can culture differences cause a problem between us?is my family right that we can never be happy comming from differenct backgrounds?
2006-08-01 21:31:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes you can
2006-08-01 21:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that the only thing you can do in this situation is to decide which is more important to you; your parents or your guy.
I know its not what you want to hear and I'm sorry for your situation. Try making your parents understand that you really love this guy and you cant live without him. Tell them that you love them too and you wish they could be happy for you. Try and solve their problem against this other culture. Also please make sure that this guy is really worth all the trouble your going through. Are you sure he's the love of your life? After you answer all these questions you might come to a answer to your problems. I must warn you, none of the answers will be easy. One way or another, someone will end up getting hurt. Good luck!
2006-08-01 21:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A culture by itself should not cause a problem, but your family's problems with your relationship most certainly will. They are already putting a strain on your relationship. Yes, you can and should marry the guy if he makes you happy and you know deep down in your heart he is the one. While your parents may be unhappy, I doubt they will commit suicide... and it is unfair for them to suggest that they will if you do marry him. If you can't handle your parents shunning you, then you can't make the relationship work, but if you can. Then be all means, marry him and be happy.
2006-08-01 21:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know who you're going to love in a lifetime, in your case it was someone outside of your culture. it can be a very difficult road, when you choose to be with a mate that your family does not approve of. you will always need the love and support of your family, but if you are an adult than you have to do what is best for you and live your own life. If you genuinely love this man and he genuinely loves you, than it is your choice. Maybe in time, after your family sees that the marriage is working and you are both happy, they will come to understand & accept. You just need to make sure that by doing this, you understand that your actions will be alienating yourself from your loved ones.
yes, it is very difficult and i would Pray about this. i know you are conflicted and want to please everyone, but sometimes you can't - you can only do what is right for you.
2006-08-01 21:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have them sign the house over to you before they jump off the cliff.. then have a happy honeymoon.
You have to do what is right for you.
You could marry the guy and still be happily married 20 years after they are dead and gone.
Your life and you happiness are what you need to focus on.
Your husband is your future, your parents are your past.
It's like that old question...
You , your loved one and your parent are in a sinking boat, none of you can swim and there are only 2 life preservers. One for you and one for...???
Who would you choose?
Your loved one is part of the future you can build, your parent is part of the past you had.
2006-08-01 21:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes - if you both learn HOW to make a relationship work and last thru studying relationship books. I'm guessing that a good relationship is the same in all or most cultures: love, respect, loyalty, dignity, honor, negotiation, compromise, best-friendship, good will, humor, fun, and the most important of all 100% HONESTY AND TRUTHFULNESS.
2006-08-01 21:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2016-03-27 14:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are true indian you will listen to your parents because Indians are known as to sacrifice. So, if your parents are happy then they will blessings for your good life. Make a mark my word, without parents blessings you will not be happy. So, think and decide.
Good luck.
2006-08-01 22:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by rooznam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can marry any one you want if your parents want to comit sissycide to keep you from being happy let them youll be with your man happily ever after
2006-08-01 21:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by macoleman63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they are not right, just because they don't approve doesnt mean that you don't love each other and if they love you they'll want you to be happy
2006-08-01 21:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋