My boyfriend can't get to come over to my house like he use to because of his new job, he doesn't have his own car (but he's looking for one) and he's with his friends ALL THE TIME and I get soooo jealous (they all live in the same neighborhood). I got so jealous to the point that I have hurt his feelings. I accused him of not having time for me and other stuff. HELP!
2006-08-01 21:17:09 · 26 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
get over yourself
2006-08-01 21:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by thenextiommi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will lose him if you express your jealousy. It's a practical matter; like you say, they all live in the same neighborhood. So when you pout and whine, and make yourself unattractive, you have no justification.
Jealousy stems from the mistaken belief that you can control someone else; indeed, that you can own them. It is just not the case; check out the 13th Amendment to the Constitution.
So the whole thing is to sympathize with your boyfriend's plight; how he is having so much trouble finding a car, and it is so bad that you live so far away, etc. Be cheerful and optimistic, and just assume it will all be straightened out eventually.
And perhaps plan a day when you can meet him somewhere using public transportation, and have a day hanging out together, just the two of you. Even if you only can do that once every month or two, you will remain special in his eyes if you handle it well. Be a real lady, one who is above petty things like jealousy, or envy of his friends who live nearby.
2006-08-01 21:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what the root of this jealously is, I was the same way and it turned out that I was jealous because I lost my best friend and I wanted what he had with his friends. Maybe you need some good friends too you can't make him your world, guys come and go but friends are 4 ever and guys feel the same way even if you dump him his friends will still be there, so you're going to have to get in where you can fit in.
2006-08-01 21:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a vry jealous person myself. And jealousy comes from lake of self assurance. You can't really overcome jealousy itself; but u can stop being so afraid that he doesnt like u or is cheating on you or jsut not spending too much time with u.
One thing that i tell myself is that he is with you because he likes u, because he WANTS to. So there is no need to be jealous because i'm the best he knows that's why we are together.
Afterall, being jealous can spoil the relationship.. and if u dnt show so how much u need him and u are not all over him all the time, he is going to come to you(it is always like that)
2006-08-01 21:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a emotion everyone has it, and you cant really do nothing about that, but if you want to keep your guy you should never mess with his friendships, Ive known several guys that have broken up with girls and that was a big reason because the girl tried to stop them from having his friends, so you could get control of that portion of your jealousy, cause he probably is not gay like you might think, that is another thing women will do is accuse there guy of being gay when they are not, you will lose him if you don't cut that behavior.
2006-08-01 21:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by wangdangdongg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divergent 13 Reasons Why The Uglies series All of Sarah Dessen's books are good The Mortal Instruments
2016-03-27 13:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look within yourself. Usually, when the partner is beginning to behave oddly, it means there is some change in you and it is in response to that, that he is changing his/her behaviour. So, try to do an introspection and recollect if there was any change in your behaviour or activities. If clueless, then ask him if you need to change any of your behaviour - is that why he is spending lesser tine with you - the very fact that you asked him will boost up his spirits and he'll remember that you asked him, even when he is with his friends and slowly, he'll begin to come to you a little earlier than before. Meanwhile, you also try to show some marked differences in your behaviour towards him - like trying to pamper him more - though pampering is more required for females, still in this special case there is no harm in "reverse osmosis"!!! All the best...
2006-08-01 21:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if his friends live closer then you, but from what i've read, all you need to do is wait for him to get his car. after that, if he doesn't come over more often, then you need to tell him. also i feel you need to sit down with him and calmly find out his priorities and where YOU stand in there.. I'm no relationship expert but i think that should do the trick.
P.S. if your going to get jealous, then save if for the females out there.
2006-08-01 21:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Mike A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in yourself
Love your self without being selfish
Love life
Understand that the world does not revolve around you
find your purpose in life and full fill it
Rise to the challenge
2006-08-02 03:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you can't go see him. However, I do tend to feel the same way about a guy who can't seem to make the effort to come and see me. I definitely think you need to talk to him about it (i.e. I miss you) and if his answer does not seem to satisfy you, maybe its time to reevaluate some things.
2006-08-01 21:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by SunnySmile83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never let "any one person" become your whole world! Go places with your friends and enjoy life,when he calls and if you want to spend time with him,then enjoy that time with him.Don't waste your life waiting for the phone to ring!
2006-08-01 21:22:34 · answer #11 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋