2006-08-01 20:10:56 · 33 answers · asked by Doodlebeane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well anger drives a person to many things, he probably does love you but cant control hI'mself im not saying hes not to blame because the fear he has of losing you should wake him up to what hes doing my advice is leave him to find him self and he really love you hell want to become better even if it takes a long time, but you have to show him what life without you is. ask your self if hes worth it if not then get out
2006-08-01 20:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by maike j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I have the same problem my girlfriend is a manic depressive and she usually takes what is known as "happy pills" but there are times when she forgets and when she argues with me sometimes she lashes out and tries to hit me now I know she loves me but some times when a person argues they say something that is so right on the money that the other person has nothing to say and that is when the hitting begins it's usually frustration of there own mistake and since they have nothing to say there hands start to fly, but listen a lot of times if you change the way you argue and take the time to understand their position it usually doesn't have to go there.
Every one says it's wrong to hit someone and it is but words can often be just as brutal so when you argue don't use words like "you" in the arguement it's hard as hell to do but you'll notice a change in the arguement. Also when you argue that is when a human is being most selfish yes selfish. when you argue you always want something from the other person or you want to change the other person...............That in itself is very wrong, when you met that person you fell in love with that person for what they are and you should back them and help them grow no matter what! Now I'm not saying the hitting is your fault because its not but if you really love this person you should at least try what I am saying I know it's hard and you never forget the pain but who to say wether or not the man or the woman is the most intelligent in the relationship. If you are and you sound like you are the more intelligent of the 2 of you just try what I'm saying you'll be amazed at how many times you have to check what your saying before you say it, but it works, 2 marrage counselors is what I paid for to learn this so I wish you luck and if you need someone to talk to about this in more detail just click my pic and E~Mail me I'll answer anything I can, Peace to you gentle one and good luck!
2006-08-01 20:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't hit you and say he loves you! A man will NEVER EVER hit the woman he loves. For this, I am sure!
If you're in an abusive relationship, I'd advise you to get out NOW and move on to another guy. Trust me...there are guys out there who don't get their kicks by hitting women!
2006-08-01 20:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They cant, I spent 9 years being beaten then he told me he loved me more than life it self, Abuse is not love get out why you can before you lose trust in all. I believe its an illness one has who hits people, its their possessive nature and way of controlling you. Don't wait like I did thinking that person will change. I lost all my confidence thought every thing that went wrong was my fault. I was a failure thats why he hit me. I wasnt i was too afraid to stand up. One day I did now i have a normal happy life.
2006-08-01 20:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is hitting you he does not fully love. If it is a man. He probably is hitting you because he can't face up to who he really is.
2006-08-01 20:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with abusive personalities come in many forms. Some will vent their aggressions and turn soft and remorseful, others act as if their violence is justified.
All are to be avoided like the plague. He will not 'snap out of it' 'grow out of it' 'get over it' or change in any other way.
There are abusive women, too. Some people learn abuse at the hands of their parents.
2006-08-01 20:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because their idea of 'love' is control and since by being abusive, they are making the victim feel small and powerless...thus rendering control on them...they are 'loving' them. But no one deserves to be treated like that...not women, nor children nor men or animals.
2006-08-01 20:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it can work like that but its not worth it. my dad used to hit my mom but really loved her. he was an alcoholic while this time he is now drinking a lot less and my parents are working things out but arent together. so get out of the relationship before u get hurt more (mentaly, physically, emotionally). then wait to see if they change. not for you but for themself.
2006-08-01 20:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by GiiGGL3S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like others said if he is abusive get out,RIGHT NOW!!!call 911 or someone who can help!!!some men are wimps inside!! to show their tuff they hit on women!!which is not kool!he doesn't love u if he treats u like a piece of crap!!move on! there r guys who r nice.u just have 2 look!
2006-08-01 20:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by LimpCane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is a way. Just say what you have to say but never be the first to say it to a guy trust me. Dont make that mistake. Because then the guy will have you under his control and you wont have him under his. Get my flow.
2006-08-01 20:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋