has the thought ever crossed your mind you would take your ex back in a minute if asked?
2006-08-01 20:08:38 · 16 answers · asked by rdhedhottie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
mine has and I declined. I still care, but wouldn't take a step back for a minute.
2006-08-01 20:12:32 · update #1
Sometimes a step back is a step forward. Depending on your situation in the relationship. I have met many women, but I haven't met anyone that I care for as much as my wife. The longer we are seperated the more she realizes how much she needs me, and I feel the same way toward her. Our seperation has made me realize that I love her and want to be with her. She feels the same way toward me. Just saying that you never look back is a short sighted view of life. Know where you've been, where you are, and where you are going.
2006-08-01 22:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by william m 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm kinda late for this question, but you gave me a pretty clear answer to mine...so here goes.
After 15 years, I can't imagine being with anyone else. But if it comes to that I will need to go through an emotional divorce as well as legal.
If she wanted to date, I might give it a try. Getting back together is like pretending that the whole break-up wasn't real.
She would be trying to manipulate me...not exactly a romantic thought.
Let her win me back if possible...see if she's got the stomach for it.
Of course if I fell in love with another, it's too late.
2006-08-03 10:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex cheated on me with some idiot from her work, he got her pregnant and then she had an abortion just two weeks before our planned wedding. After I found out, I haven't spoken to her since, and she's tried to contact me numerous times over the last 16 years. Not a chance in hell that I'd ever speak to her again or ever take her back. I'm happily married now and would never take that witch back after what she pulled....
2006-08-01 20:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by ronindeathstalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance. It was not the 1'st affair, or even the second. At number 3 I finally conluded that there was a pattern there and ended it. This all happened when I was young and deployed with a Marine Expeditionary Force, so I was gone a lot.
2006-08-02 17:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through a divorce now. She asked for the divorce. Then she proceeded to rip and berate me. At first, I still wanted her back for anything. Then I got the senses beat back into me and I'm at the point of "I don't know". There's a lot of issues involved. I would try but seriously think there isn't much of a chance. I've got two kids that I've got to think about, too. I don't want them to go through it again. The way I see it, it's going to be her choice, her move. Then it will be completely up to me if that's what's right for me and my kids.
2006-08-02 17:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you married in a haste of roses smelling romance and great sex that proclaimed"O MY GOD everytime, it's normal to have that kind of thought.It 's always like this, curiosity breds familarity, and familarity breds contempt. Some people are good at being lovers but are poor at being a spouse that you can share a life with. Take consolation in the fact that there are no children involved in this separation.
2006-08-01 20:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by lucas l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a divorce right now. My soon-to-be ex sent me 28 typed pages outlining all of my shortcomings. Yeah, I'm sure I would go back in a minute.
2006-08-01 20:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by yamaha bassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did a lot after he found someone else because it created doubts in my mind of what I had left. Then reality would kick in and I realized that he wasn't the guy I wanted to spent the rest of my life with so I'd get over it.
2006-08-01 20:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by ididntdoitthedogdid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All 3 of mine have and I declined and then laughed hysterically!
2006-08-01 21:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could never go back to the ugliness, hatred, danger and stupidity in that relationship - especially after i (but not her) learned what a good relationship is all about from books and teachers and HOW TO DO IT!
2006-08-01 21:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋