Does casual flirtatious chatting with opposite sex need to be disclosed to spouse? Would she be upset?

Answer 1

I can totally relate to this question because I'm in a similar situation at work, and I was wondering the same thing myself. So here's how I happen to feel about the subject: Casual flirting is completely harmless as long as neither person takes it any further then that.Even if you're married to someone else, you didn't go blind, it is possible to be attracted to another member of the opposite sex, it happens.It is, however disrespectful to check out someone else or flirt with someone right in front of your spouse, I think that's wrong. But it also depends on your spouse-some women are really jealous and will probably get pretty pissed off at the situation, while others aren't the jealous type and are not at all threatened by what's going on(if they're even aware of what's happening.) I know if it was my spouse, I'd kill him if I found out he was flirting with other girls!(But I happen to be the jealous type, too.) However, since I've been on both sides of the fence,as I mentioned earlier, I have two different perspectives on this whole issue. As for whether or not you should actually TELL your spouse what's going on? I believe honesty is the best policy, but not neccessarily in this case.If the guilt is eating away at you, and you and your wife have a completely open and honest relationship, then go for it.But if you're afraid she's gonna overreact, and you don't really think it should be brought up, I'd just let it go.Because what she doesn't know really isn't gonna hurt her,in my honest opinion, as long as you're telling me the truth and this really IS nothing but "casual flirtatious chat" . I hope I've been helpful at all to you. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think that seeing as things have apparently not gone beyond the "flirtatious chatting" stage as you put it, it would be more painful for both you and your wife to disclose it to her than to simply stop doing it. That said, you need to promise yourself that you will never do it again and then don't. If there are any problems within your marriage that are leading you to seek outside validation, address those with her instead and get to the root of the problem so that you are no longer tempted to interact in a flirtatious way with women other than your wife. Also, you must take responsibility for your actions and make sure that you do not blame them on anything that your wife or anyone else is or isn't doing. Once you do that, you will be in a better position to stop your destructive behavior, as you will realize that it is no one's responsibility but your own. Good luck.

Answer 3

No it doesn't need to be disclosed. I think you know her well enough to know if she would be upset. If she was the one flirting, would you be upset? The key here is if the flirting is something that you wouldn't tell anyone about, then it isn't appropriate for you to be flirting. Good Luck

Answer 4

well...i know i'd be upset if my bf was always flirting and ****. why would u do that anyway if you are in a relationship? spouse too??? sheesh, that's worse. LOOKING IS OK...but actually going and flirting with other womeN? that's a no no. trust me. would u like it if your spouse flirted with other dudes behind your back? this is such a simple question to answer. no brainer. and when you say chatting, are u chatting on line with stranger women???

Answer 5

y tell her if u r not serious..............she'll get upset no matter what u say.