He has lied to me in the past, some times it is hard to trust him. I feel like a knife has been placed in my heart, and I physically feel sick. Please someone respond as I really have no one to talk to.
2006-08-01 18:55:04 · 19 answers · asked by Sherri S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're feeling physically sick about something your husband's doing, then that should be your red flag. Don't ignore it. You have to be honest with your husband about how you're feeling. Let him know you don't like him talking to her. I let my husband know when I don't like him talking to certain girls a lot. You have to speak up, otherwise he'll never know what he's doing is bothering you. Men are just clueless about how these things can hurt a girl. They can be so insensitive. I can't believe he was that rude to tell you he has chemistry with her. I would definately tell him to stop talking to her, unless he wants to deal with a serious fist in the mouth.
2006-08-01 19:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband just did the same thing to me about 3 months ago. He swears he wasn't sleeping with her, but that they were just good friends. Have you talked to him more about it? Its a hard thing to bring up in discussion, but it needs to be done. The physical sickness will only get worse!!!! Maybe do some quiet observation on their relationship. As awful as spying on him is, it will either quiet your suspicions, or you will have your answer. He may not realize what he is doing/saying hurts you. Try to come to him with facts/observations, not rumors and conjectures. You may be able to work it out if you are having trust issues...if its more than that, then at least you know where you stand in the relationship.
Best of luck, and I hope you can find a way to work it out.
2006-08-01 19:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ancient Forever Lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one, I don't think it was right of him to openly say to you that they have chemistry( that would have been slap number one!). For two, if that's just a friend, ok, no problem, but you should always be introduced to ALL of his friends, and the same vice versa. For three; communication is KEY! If you don't talk to your hubby, and tell him your feelings, or complaints then how r they going to know that 1.)There's EVEN a problem, and
2.) How to solve the problem.
Lay down some laws that he either has to follow, or compromise to, and stick to it. Gotta watch this one closely, b/c they have "chemistry" and r just friends, could blossom into something much more! Best of luck, ~peace~
2006-08-01 19:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by yelloerose07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset, this guy has a thing for this woman and he even admitted to it! You had better be careful, because when guys start talking crap like this, they are looking for a backdoor out of your relationship, and they have probably been seeing her on the side already, he's already admitted to thinking about it and talking to her daily. This is not good for you. No wonder you dont trust him, trust is so hard to gain back once it is gone and like my dad always told me, "with no trust, there is no marriage". Please take this advice and start looking into divorce proceedings. You dont deserve to be treated like a doormat and the longer it goes on, the worse it's gonna get and he will continue to cheat on you.
I know it's gonna be hard, and i know how you feel seeing as how i was cheated on numerous amounts of times by my ex, you must move on. Keep your spirits high, don't lose your self-esteem, and above all love yourself. There is someone worthy of you out there and once you let him go, the pain will cease, and you can move on with your life.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-08-01 19:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he right out told you he has chemistry with someone else, why don't you boot him out!?! It shows you for one, no respect and he seems to care nothing about your feelings.
You deserve better, and let the woman he has chemistry with have him. that is one of the most insensitive things you could say to the woman you are married to and supposed to love.
Maybe he needs an eye opener, like clothes piled on the front lawn when he comes home tommarrow. And a note on the door that says, do not enter, I have found chemistry with the man who is in the house where you are not welcome anymore!
If this doesn't help, I hope it at least made you smile thinking about it!
2006-08-01 19:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so easy to talk about something but it is very difficult to put it into practise, the reason being that we lost the practise since many past births! We are so caught peeping through 'other people's' windows, and criticising 'others' with statements such as: 'that person is bad', or 'that person is a cheater', 'that person is a liar', 'that person is of bad character', and this list is endless. Some ignorant people go to the extent to make profound statements such as: 'I can recognise the color of a flying bird' or 'I know the history of that person's seven generations'. This goes to show that such ignorant people have closed the doors of knowing their 'own' selves and got busy in gossipping about the 'other' or 'others'. This goes to show that we seem to have stopped loving and worrying about 'ourselves', and on the contrary we have got busy indulging in finding the shortcomings of 'others'.
Such ignorant people who are busy in digging the short comings of 'others' feel that they are far better and superior than those they criticise and that the latter are 'bad' whereas they are 'good'. By blacklisting 'other' people, it does not make our face shine 'bright'. It is believed that such an ignorant soul is trapped for countless births in playing such a deceptive game, and the soul's energy is spent in digging the shortcomings of 'others'.
Where does a person have the time to examine oneself? Hence such a person keeps on stumbling on the path of life and carries on blaming the 'other' with criticisms. Such criticisms are a mere reflection of the person who makes these criticisms.
2006-08-01 18:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by kutch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sherry,
so sorry about how you feel, know exactly the feeling. I chant nam myoho renge kyo...sounds like mom but with an a, myoho like mioho, and the rest sounds like is reads. I am able to get relief and wisdom.. my passion and love for the person who I am hurting over is still there but am not paralyzed... this is a buddhist chant.. means opening the mystic law of simultanous cause and effect through sound or teaching. the energy you send out becomes different when you chant it and it changes the response from the universe... but you have to chant through it until you get the result you want. hope this helps... ask if you have any qeustions
2006-08-01 19:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by eva h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women can be friends only;however, it is rare. If your man doesn't include you in their together time, there is a big red flag. If you have expressed your feelings and how it makes you uncomfortable, he should decide between you and her. If he begins to include you and convinces you that they share friendship, you be the judge. When I hear the word chemistry, I associate it with a bond that is stronger than just friends. I would seriously question whether or not he's lying, cheating or both. It sounds extremely fishy.
2006-08-01 19:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 20:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you must confront this head on your husband should not
communicating with this other woman you are the one he is married to I would tell him to end the communication or discuss
drastic alternatives he is basically cheating on you stand up for yourself and the marriage. I had an old high school friend that at one time I had a serious crush on I was honest with my wife and saw that this hurt her feelings I ended all communication with this person for my wife P.S. I knew this other woman for 9yrs. Question his love for you.
good luck ,god bless!
2006-08-01 19:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋