The ex is getting married.. next couple months.. I left her after 12-13 years.. bored..dull she wasn't into the family thing... I left for a younger beautiful girl.. hoping it would all work out.. we got married.. she couldn't handle my relationship with my boys.. we split.. now the ex has really come around.. has made great changes ... I work and take care of my boys and really don't want to get involved with another relationship... but when they are with the ex... I miss then and really miss the family as a whole.. sad and lonely when they are away... and wish I would have worked things out in hindsight... to late for that now.. just have this empty void... and pain of what I have done or didn't do to my family.. just hurts... and it isn't easy going forward... I know isn't so bad... but sure is in my world.. what to do.. what to do...
2006-08-01 18:43:19 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, all I can say is time heals all things. Apparently, both of you have done a bit of maturing (you and the mother of your boys). However, your guilt and regret is giving you the feeling that the two of you should be back together. Here's the thing. You broke her heart. Whereas, she may have forgiven you for the choice you made at that time, she has moved on and grown past needing you as her mate. Continue to have a healthy parenting relationship with your boys and their mother. Your time will come, you just have to bite the bullet you shot and allow time to become your best friend. This would be a good time to develop a great second love, like sailing, bicylcing (it'll give you a great bottom, women love that), carpentry (if you don't already have that skill), wine tasting. Hell, there are all sorts of things you can get involved in. Here's the really cool thing about it, you might accidentally find someone very special the moment you stopping worrying about it.
2006-08-01 19:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could try living with your ex again and see how it works out, nothing saying you have to marry her again right away. Maybe she has changed for the better, and sometimes it takes something like a divorce to make people realize that they need to change. Or just date.......and spend a little more time together as a "whole" family. I'm sure the boys would love that their parents are being good friends.
2006-08-02 01:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋