I love my husband so much but he never romance me. I love having sex with him, but he's not romantic. He's a wonderful listener everyone goes to him with there problems everyone thinks he needs to be a counsler , but I can't talk to him like everyone else. We have an engagement party coming up where we are renewing our vows. I want to take a vacation after with him and I want him to romance me.
2006-08-01 18:42:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can want whatever you want
2006-08-01 18:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad to hear I'm not the only one going though this. I have the same problem with my wife, sex is great with her, but she doesn't romance me at all. At least not like we used to when were boyfriend/girlfriend. Now, the ONLY time we have sex is when I initiate it. What I don't get, is that she's like a guy in bed, she comes to orgasm really quick and takes such enjoyment out of it that she's done for the evening leaving me haning; if it's that good, why can't she have me in her thoughts all the time and want it non-stop? If it wasn't for me, we probably would never have sex. Oh, here's the catcher, she wants to have kids....but how do you have kids?? LoL. I try to so hard to romance her, buy her things, send her cute text messages, etc... I know her very well and I know she's not cheating on me. I even told her that if she did she could tell me and I would understand because of the fact we had some rocky times in the past, but we are getting along very well now. I just wish she was romantic and aggressive for my attention like she used to be. I almost wish we were boyfriend/girlfriend so I can hang out with girls again and make her jealous.
As for your answer, a vacation does help! :) Las Vegas is great!
2006-08-02 01:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by luedvic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your man then you need to tell him what you want from him, what you need from him, and why you need it. You also need to tell him that both your lines of communication is currently busy because he's so busy fixing everyone else's problems except yours. He's not going to see it as him having a problem because it will always be the woman who has the problem. Men like it simple: 1) tell them the problem, 2) tell them the solution, and 3) sit back and observe, sistah, because it might take just awhile for it to register before he takes action on your words. If you're still having great sex with your man, then obviously he's enjoying it with you AND...what you need to do is give him a head start. What I mean is you need to set the mood; dim the lights or light the candles, sweet talk him, rub his back, touch him... then... tell him to reciprocate it- and tell him it's because you like that kind of attention, too.
2006-08-01 19:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "Usually men are supposed to be the chivalrous ones. However, there could be a switch. Why not bring the chivalry to him? Maybe that'll compel him to get on board. Candlelit intimate moments, flowers and dinner will do the trick. Also, some bedroom tricks will definitely be a plus. If not, then your husband is a vegetable."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-02 10:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to be the romantic. Sometimes you have to show him. Or tell him. Men are such simple creatures. They try so hard to make us happy. They try to read our minds and guess what we want. Why don't you just tell him. And watch him try. He will get it. You are married now. No more mind games.
2006-08-01 18:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man needs to be shown interst in a specal way he might thing that you dont . why dont you try something differnt in your lifes something you neither have done before ? my opion ?
2006-08-01 19:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋