I have no idea what I am supposed to do. My ex is trying to get back with me and I am living with my current boyfriend.
My ex found me on myspace a little while ago and at first seemed harmless but now wants to be with me. He sends me videos of songs that describe how he feels. Now our relationship was really messed up and there are alot of things that we need to work out. I fear that I am not happy with my current bf because I can't do anything but think about my ex. My ex made me happy most of the time and my current bf tends to make me more mad than happy. I just wish that I could just tell my ex no, but I don't want to lose him in the shuffle. He is the father of my son and I don't want to lose the fact that he is actually willing to talk to me again. What do I do? Someone please tell me?
2006-08-01 18:11:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, as for the ones that aren't being serious you know where to stick it. My ex, took off with my son when he was 3 months old in hopes that he would get child support from me and my current bf mentally abuses me . . . Maybe that will help. But my ex has aploigized for what he has done and was listening to other people when he did what he did. We have worked that out but my current bf still treats me as if I were his slave. And if I don't get done what he wants me to do, then we fight and he makes me feel like I am nothing. My ex never did that to me. The only thing that he ever did was take our son, and I got him back in the end. . . so . . . any new suggestions?
2006-08-01 18:28:25 · update #1
Before I got with my current bf I was single for 3 years. I didn't want to be in a relationship just because of how screwed up the relationship with my ex was. And the only reason that we broke up was because he was listening to everyone else and thought that was what he should do. We were both young and unsure of how to be a family. It was really stressful and we didn't deal with that well at all.
2006-08-02 04:05:09 · update #2
Suggestion: Break up with the current bf since you are not happy, take your son and go talk to you ex who obviously loves you and you love him.. There is really no reason to stay with a man that makes you feel worthless and unhappy..You obvioulsy know the answer to your question and I think you know what you need to do..Just be strong enough to tell this guy it's over and get your life back.. You deserve to be happy..
Conserning your ex.. if the only thing he did was taking his son after you broke up then I think this only means that he is probably a loving father.. I think you should consider very well if you still love this man becuase even though i dont know any of you it seems to me that one day you can be a family.. also for the best of your son ..
Good luck, wish you the best =D
2006-08-01 18:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone that is a mother I feel what you need to do is evaluate your current situation. If your current bf is not treating you right you need to let him know that. If he cant understand that and try to make some changes then you need to move on. Your ex and father of your child is wanting you back in his life. Now you need to talk to him and evaluate your previous relationship. Tell him where you feel he went wrong, but dont forget to mention that you might have been wrong also. If you can be mature and start things slow and work on the relationship thats a plus for the both of you and your child. Set ultimatums for eachother and see if they work before you go further in the relationship. I hope all works out well for you in the end. Good luck
2006-08-01 18:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by d_sbabymomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take time away from feeling like you "must" be attached to someone. You are apparently being abused and you need to seek help. As far as your "ex", there is nothing wrong with having a healthy co-parenting relationship with him. I believe the reason you're reminiscing about your past relationship with him is relative to the abuse you're experiencing right now. The two of you broke up for a reason. Take a moment to get yourself together. Get your son out of that abusive situation before he learns to be the same way. Children learn from what they see and experience. Don't jump from one relationship to another, take a breather. It's time to move on, seek professional help to get things going for yourself so you won't be dependant on someone else. You'll be just fine. You'll also earn more respect as a stronger woman.
2006-08-01 20:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex should be a part of your life because he's your son's father. You should leave your current boyfriend because no one deserves to be abused mentally and/or physically. It's not a good situation for your or your son. You need to be on your own and find happiness again.
2006-08-01 18:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you are not over your ex boyfriend. Neither are you happy with your current one. I would suggest that what you need is to make a completely fresh start. Hang out with friends and give the dating scene a miss until you sort out your feelings.
2006-08-01 18:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose contact with your ex due to him being your son's dad. But, if you ex is causing a problem between you and your current beau, then he needs to back down. Tell him that he needs to be around to be a dad and that's it.
2006-08-01 18:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your X for a reason, i think you need to think about the reasons why, your current b/f that you are living with is there for a reason to. sounds like to me if it wasnt for your X finding you on myspace everything would of been ok. what was you thinking when you started living with your b/f? you would of never lived with him if your X was meant this much to you. be careful the X isnt playing games to get you back just cause he can. the b/f you now live with had to mean something to you. good luck...
2006-08-01 18:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are all good answers. I would try to work it out with the ex for the kid. his/her problems are more important than yours.
2006-08-01 18:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be a real woman...stop with cheating. or you will be a single old woman in your future.....find a real husband..and try to be a real wife.
at in this moment you're just an object sexual.
be happy
2006-08-01 18:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by diced tomatoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i wish this kind of crap were the only problems i had
2006-08-01 18:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by addictivehabits01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋