How Do I Fight For Visit Rights With For My Daughter I Just Started SeeingHerThisPast Month After 5 Years?

Question

OK I JUST STARTED VISITING MY 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WELL MY HUSBAND'S DAUGHTER OR B/F WE ALSO HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER..HE HAS NOT SEEN HER IN 5 YEARS LONG STORY SHORT WE ALL MOVED IN DIFFERNT PLACES AND WHEN SHE FOUND OUT SHE WAS HAVING A BABY SHE DID NOT TELL HIM TILL SHE WAS 4 YEARS OLD NOW WE VISIT WITH HER,BUT JUST ABOUT HAVE TO BEG AND SHE CRYS EVERYTIME IT IS TIME TO GO HOME.WE LOVE HER JUST AS WELL AS OUR OTHER KIDS AND WE GOT ALL THE THINGS FOR HER TO GET STARTED FOR SCHOOL PLUS SOME FOR HER OTHER KIDS ALSO JUST TO BE NICE CAUSE THAT'S THE PERSON I AM...I NEED SOME ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO MAY HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS..... ON HOW WE CAN GET VISITS EVERY WEEKEND WITHOUT HAVING TO GIVE SOMETHING TO HER ARE BEG AND PLEAD FOR IT WE ARE REALLY IN NEED FOR ADVICE...PLEASE ANSWER THIS ONLY IF YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS ARE KNOW WHAT WE SHOULD DO THIS IS IMPORANT TO US...ADULTS ONLY PLEASE......THANKS ALOT FOR YOUR TIME IN NEED....DADDY LOOKING FOR HELP

ok sorry let me re do this.. my now husaband found out years ago he had a daughter before we met and she did not tell him till she was 4 years old that he was the daddy he was then in her life for a while then things did not go well between them then later we all lived in the same apartment complex but different homes!! we moved out of town and lost touch of her could not find her well we moved back to mississippi and found out that she was living with her parents the mother of the child now we see her on weekend but he have to beg her are give her things for the rest of her family she works him and like makes him feel sorry cause she has a man with know job so we bought her other kids clothes and supplies also even her school things from clothes to supplies...we want to find out how to get her every weekend without being hassel about it please help us out if you know

Answer 1

Okay I'm going to sum this up with a site that will help...I'm a single parent of a girl and I... 1st hand know how your husband feels.
I purely walk the floor until I got custody of my child.

Now with all that said she's 13 and I also know she's at the age where she wants things different in her life mine does this at age 12 just going skating or spend the night with another little girl.
Hope you understand were I'm coming from.

But the main thing is she needs to be around her real dad your ( husband ) as much as she can and at her age this is a good thing because shes still got that Daddy little girl out look and she needs to know everything about her dad.

In school kids say where's you real dad I also know this because...its hurts a child inside thinking the other parent don't won't them and now she can go to school and say to her friends my dad this my dad that :~) My dad more handsome then Elvis Presley anyway you get may drift.( are if they have passed away they feel like they have lost out knowing the other parent ) [ Super big complex ]

Remains me of a commercial when I was little that was about hush-puppy shoes remember ( my dogs better then your dog )...well bet she has plenty to say come school in a couple of weeks.

Heres a site you can chat live with an attorney http://www.lawyers.com/ plus right on their site it will also have a list of lawyers in your town to help if needed.

Now if you cannot afford a lawyer call legal aid for the number of a Pro-Bone-O lawyer free of charge.

Also there and organiztion for good dads called " Good Father Rights " out of Atlanta, Georgia...The way I contacted them was through my local press.

There Big time radio show ...tv shows theres judges and lawyers and lots of single dads wanting to see there kids this is what they are for.

I also like to say one more thing her mother loves her your not their to bust her bubble and take the child away all you need in vistation like you ask in your question because you have to always remember that mother raised her there's love there that should never be disrupted. [ plus you all can come good friends in the future who knows for the girls sake ]

Answer 2

This seems kinda shady. Whose asking first off. Your writing it as this is the girlfriend or something but at the end the father.

IF your the girlfriend and it is NOT your biological child and the biological mother is alive YOU have NO RIGHTS TO SEE HER AT ALL. the mother can even specify that legally, that ONLY the paternal father has rights.
If shes alive and well you cant do anything legally.

As the father. If he wants. he can go for perm. custody and maybe shared with her real mother. But most likely since they werent married ( or if was than it should have been covered) but anyways. He has to legally declare her as an unfit mother and prove it to the court. But beware also SHE the rreal mom can dig stuff up on him and YOU and the home enviroment. the court will rule in the best interest of the girl. which sometimes, majority of the time rule with the biological mother especially if theres been 13 years of establishing a life, school, and friendships....BUT if you can rpove the real moms unfit or come to some deal of joint custody. you have no rights. the father has them..

Answer 3

If I understand this, you are female, and the girl you are talking about is not your biological child. If that's so, then you don't have any legal rights.

This is really poorly worded, so much so that I laughed when I read it. Sorry! From what I understand someone has a daughter. But it could be a daughter or a boyfriend, which makes the gender uncertain! LOL Someone (not specified who) found out she was having a baby, she did not tell him (unspecified again). You use a lot of she, he, him, her, etc. and you don't have any identifying names or relationships to say who is who. I gather there are at least four people involved in this, but hell if I can make out who's who.

Good luck. You might want to ask this question again and re-word it and give more detail. Use names and tell who is related to whom and how. That would help.

Cheers, K

Answer 4

You knew precisely what he used to be like even as you had been courting, so practically you understand what sort of beyond he had. In some way he's proper approximately the beyond, you already knew what it used to be like. You married him and it's time to transfer on for your married existence and depart the beyond at the back of. It is handiest common to not believe a few one you understand matters approximately. If he has performed whatever given that you may have been married, then being unhappy and a loss of believe could also be a common feeling. It is unhappy while you marry a few one it is simply no longer them that's facet of that marriage it entails each and every factor else. You marry the entire kit deal and all of the messes that compliment it. Until he proves you can't believe him you ought to allow pass of his beyond.