Here's the thing. I don't think it's appropriate for my husband to have a friendship with his ex girlfriend. They lived together for two years, and of course were intimate. I think it's unapproiate for him to have a friendship with her. Am I wrong?
2006-08-01 17:32:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think you are wrong at all. It is really funny that I just had this conversation with my significant other tonight. We were talking about keeping our relationship strong and early on in our relationship I made the mistake of trying to be good friends with people I'd dated in the past. I used to think it wasn't a big deal to talk with them, have coffee, etc. Since then, I've done a lot of thinking and here's what I think. Relationships are really fragile and precious. Trust is a good thing but in order to preserve integrity, people who are serious about having a great relationship don't put themselves into situations which may threaten that. Now, I'm not saying don't exchange Chrismas cards or say a quick hello should you meet an ex in public but I do think taking it beyond that is likely just asking for trouble. This man is married to you and that should take priority above all else. If he knows how you feel and that this hurts you he should respect that fact and not continue his friendship.
2006-08-01 17:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by UCURGYPSY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's appropriate anytime the relationship allows, but in this case it doesn't allow because you object. There is one thing you need to realize though, if you become jealous and demanding over his relationship with his ex, then that may be the catalyst that drives him away from you and back into the arms of his ex. Which would you rather have a husband with an ex that's a friend or a lonely relationship with yourself? You don't have to stop being friends with someone just because a life together didn't work out. The big picture you need to see is they already had (past tense) a relationship. As you have pointed out their relationship didn't work, so why would they need to have another relationship that they both already know won't work any way! Don't injure you relationship with your husband over a failed relationship with and ex!
2006-08-02 00:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kewl__Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person will get hurts all the time because you will be wondering what is their friendship about. Its really difficult to believe that they are just friendship when they did have intimate before. No one know if they will be in love again, no one can guarantee that even your husband also can't guarantee, right? Its depends how strong his love to you.
2006-08-02 00:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago were they together? I wouldn't think it appropriate for them to have a strong friendship, but like acquaintances would be alright. Not like, hanging out with her alone or anything. That would be weird. Make sure if it is a firendship, you are a part in it :D
2006-08-02 00:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by xxjoanna_maexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time they should stop being friends is if one hurt the other really bad. If you think that he will go back with her then yes it should stop. You both should talk about it. But remember you don't want him judging who you should talk to, so why should you? Only if you suspect something. Then try to be open with him.
2006-08-02 00:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by nikki_is_the_best2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing wrong with being friends... as long as nothing is being hid from you and he's not hanging out with her with out you... unless you have a good reason then you shouldn't be against it... but if it bothers you talk to him about it... he's married to you not her.... keep that in mind..... good luck
2006-08-02 00:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they were friends before they can't just stop the friendship but they can stop the relationship
2006-08-02 00:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by lady t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, whether all parties are mature/secure enough to cope....I'm friends with my ex AND his new partner
2006-08-02 00:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have enough sensitivity to know that would be a problem for you and not carry it on. I agree!
2006-08-02 00:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that it's better when they fell more comfortable around each other.
2006-08-02 00:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋