Me and my boyfriend broke up after a very strong relationship and now he is going with the girl i suspected he was cheating on me with but he claims that he doesnt love her and that he would do anything for a second chance with me. Should I take him back?
2006-08-01 17:27:56 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
one word: NO
this guy is trouble, believe me
2006-08-01 17:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebuilding trust is an extremely hard thing to do, particularly if you suspected him of cheating regularly in your prior relationship. Now he wants you back after breaking up with her?
I'd say to tell him no. Get yourself into a place where you feel confident and assertive (rather than aggressive or passive), well past the "rebound" stage. Date a few people, go out and have fun. After that, if you're still interested in a relationship with him, then give him another chance. You probably won't want to.
In any case, trust your instincts about him, no matter what you might think about love, fairness, and forgiveness.
2006-08-01 17:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Muffie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO! Ok I say this simply because if you suspected he was cheating with her he probably was. Women have that gut feeling that 9 out of 10 times is true. What he did was leave to see if the grass was greener on the other side and now that he realized he f**ked up now he wants you back. Well I'm sorry but if I were you I would make him play my game too. If you want to be a part of his life then yea hang out with him and do things together but don't make him your whole life again at the drop of a hat. Make him see what it feels like. But do remember sister once a cheater always a cheater. Men feel like if they get away with it once that they can do it again and most times they do wonder again....so I guess it's your call as to how much you trust him. Don't accept him back right away though.
2006-08-01 17:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by tejasred2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say no from first hand experience. I am not a young girl any more and have had my share of cheating husbands. You need to understand that a boyfriend could turn into husband some day. If he would cheat on you now what do you expect in the future. Also ask yourself who was he with before you and if you could have the opportunity to ask them one thing make it this -was he cheating on them to be with you? You may be surprised to hear the answer! Most men never change its a fact they are just programed that way they look with their yes and then their body takes over!You are probably the best looking girl he will ever have and have qualities he will never find again. But it won't matter to him now he has to be broken down and be near his death bed before he will ever face his mistakes and admit that the right one got away! You get on with your life God will send you the right man when it is the right season in your life!
2006-08-01 17:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by strtovr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do, then you will be allowing him to hurt you even more.
He has already hurt you enough, hasn't he?
How can you ever trust this guy again?
I know it seems like there would be some satisfaction for you, in taking him away from her like she took him from you. But turning him down should give you some satisfaction, too.
Do you want to spend any more time looking over your shoulder, waiting for some girl to stab you in the back because he has a wandering eye and can't control the urge to play around?
He did it once, he will do it again.
Leave yourself open for meeting somebody new.
There ARE guys out there who don't cheat. Find one or wait for one, is my advice to you.
2006-08-01 17:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably telling the other girl the same thing so that he can have his cake and eat it too. If you suspected that he was cheating before, then he probably was. And if he was , then he will do it again...especially since he got away with it before, and he is possibly getting away with it now! I don't think that you will ever be able to trust him again...and that is what relationships are based on...trust.
2006-08-01 17:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Oblivia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Whitney Houston says, "HELL TO THE NAW"! Girlie, if he did this to you once, he's gonna do it again and again and again! Do NOT lower yourself to this scumbag and let him dismantle your pride and self esteem. It seems like this punk likes to get his rocks of by messing with your affections. And you know what else, hon? If you take him back, then who's to say that he's gonna tell this chick that he doesn't love YOU and wants HER back, or even worse, he'll hook up with someone else and therefore continue this web of lies and deceit. Do yourself a favor and move on. Get up and go on with your life. Take time for you and get your emotional house in order before you get involved with the next person. You are all that you've got, so take care of yourself. Don't put yourself at risk for another heartache or a possible STD. Be well, my dear!
2006-08-01 17:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy for us to tell u no because were not in ur situation,,& i know ur going through so much ,.. but think about the consequences before u do da actions..
for my opinion.,. i say NO because u dont wanna get hurt more than once
u dont wanna make da same mistakes
u dont wanna suffer again
but it also depends like is this his first time to cheat on u?
if it is give him ONE LAST CHANCE TO PROVE HIMSELF
and if he make the same mistake or hurt u again forget it then
u deserve so much better u dont deserve a guy like him....
actually all of our opinions wouldnt really matter cus da decision is all up TO YOU!
so think about it and go for it
good luck :)
2006-08-01 17:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by yumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie if he will cheat on you once he will cheat on you again and again and he will tell you that he's not cheating on you but he really is all men will do that they just can't keep to one woman they have to have all the woman that will sleep with them so if you want my opinion i would say NO WAY.
2006-08-01 17:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by blondiegirl1065 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sheez!!! NO!! look at your own question!!! "a very strong relationship" and "suspected he was cheating"...THose Do NOT fit together!!! IT Takes 2 Healthy people to make a Strong Relationship...Get Healthy Yourself First!!!
2006-08-01 17:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by rlharris59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it seems like that should confirm your suspicions of him cheating if that's who he went to after your relationship ended. It also sounds like he's using the other girl if he's willing to just dump her for you. Maybe he went out with her to make you jelous..anything's possible, I suppose. I'm going to say follow your heart. If you truly believe he didn't cheat and you wanna take another chance, go for it. Just keep your guard up...if he's willing to drop her like that, who's to say he won't do that to you eventually, too?! Hope my advice helps...
2006-08-01 17:33:58 · answer #11 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋