He gets angry at me for everything, and just blows up. Then he just does this ignoring thing, and acts like I am not even there. I just really don't know what to do. I have thought about leaving him, but I love him and I don't want to be without him.
2006-08-01 17:16:36 · 27 answers · asked by Magikfairey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If money isnt an issue, and you have been together for a long time, then you need to talk seriously about whats going on. If he is born in June, he is a cancer, and crabs go back into their shell when they feel threatened. Give some time for the ignoring thing to settle down and then ask to talk with him. Talk in a low soft non threating tone.
You should express your desire to be with him and to make things better. Sometimes saying your sorry if you have done anything to offend him will bring about an apology from him too. Does it really matter who says sorry first? Sounds like you two are both a little guilty of not communicating how you feel and it has built up to a point that he got real angry.
Hopefully you will get to an answer so you can get beyond this sticking point.
2006-08-01 17:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by besttobefriends 2 · 14⤊ 0⤋
That's just like a guy. Everything you do is wrong - maybe we need to look a little deeper such as - is there pressure in his life right now - like work or not enough money being earned to survive - those kinds of things will affect the relationship. If it's none of those things - you need to buy a heavy skillet frying pan and when he's sleeping - just kidding! If there is the pressure as I mentioned above - you'll need to help out as in maybe getting a job to help supplement the income or have a warm bath waiting for him after work - include a hot oil massage - do some pampering. Good Luck
2006-08-02 00:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are feeling this way.....
Sometimes people just naturally grow bored with each other. It may not necessarily mean he doesn't love you.
If he continues to treat you this way, maybe you should leave for a few days (if you can) and just not tell him what you're doing or where you're going, just go.
Sometimes a man just needs a wake up call to let him know not to take you for granted.
When you feel you've made your point, come back and face him.....if he still loves you his attitude should show it.
And if not.....maybe your life is about to take a direction where change will be in your best interest.....
Use your best judgment, trust your instincts, and good luck.
2006-08-02 00:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by JC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a life of your own? when he ignors you why dont you go take up some activity of your own. If you wer not so available and needy he might not be so irritated and ignoring you. If you had some outside interest to discuss or persue it would make you more interesting andyou might be busy sometime when he wants to be with you and you could ignore him. IF you have made him your entire world PLEASE change that . Read a book Take a class make someting grow something do something that is not just being his wife and he might notice you again/ Try to find out what happened to the girl he loved, try to get her back and his attitude will change.
2006-08-02 00:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he blows up and get angry all the time, he must having lots of anger in him. Whatever the reason is, he should not let it out on others. He should be more responsible and care about your feelings. Communicate with him or go counseling together. If he loves you enough, he'll try to work out your differences.
2006-08-02 00:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is really stressing over something. Could be his work or something he is hiding. My husband us to be the same way. I found out he was stressing over work and bills. Guys always hold so much inside. He may never talk to you about it. Mine would every once in a while. But then I quit work and stay home with the kids and took over the finances and he seems to be more happy than what he was before. I have dinner ready and the bills are all in order.
2006-08-02 00:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back, have you said or done anything that you can think of that could have caused him to be so angry at you. It seems to me that his anger is fueled by being hurt. Can you remember when he didn't get so angry? If so, think back to that time and think of what you could have done or said to hurt him. Plus it sounds like you both have a communication problem. Once you get to the source of the problem work on those communication skills.
2006-08-02 00:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by jennjo270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with the previous answers, but it may be in his head that he doesn't love you anymore. Men get caught up in the responsibilities of marriage, the familiarity of the sex, many things. If you ask him, you've got to try something to make it so he's comfortable and not defensive. Maybe his favorite dinner, whatever. Pose the question as if you'd like to see if you couldn't improve the relationship. Sucker him in, and he's yours!
2006-08-02 00:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel pity at your situation. I'm terribly sorry you have to go through this day by day. I'm not sure what you should do, but maybe there's a way you can remind him that marriage has more benefits than sharing bank accounts. I'm not saying go screw him or anything, but maybe you could ask him for like, a vacation. Yeah, maybe he (or even you) needs to unwind. Maybe he's having a tough time at work or something.
2006-08-02 00:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by ed_boy5249 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is obviously something going on between him and you. Do you guys have 'relations' anymore? Do you have time for each other? Not a peck on the cheek, but romantic time. Take long walks, picnic lunches, drives through the country...etc...
Talk things out and quit surfing the net.
2006-08-02 00:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by a1quick57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋