HER FAMILY IS SUPER RELIGIOUS. SHE DOESN'T WANT A CONFRONTATION WITH THEM.
2006-08-01 17:09:59 · 13 answers · asked by ut4memp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you two been together for that long? Any talk of moving together yet? It would be best to wait until your relationship gets more serious and until she's ready, don't force her. If it really bothers you, sit with her and talk about it, tell her that you'd wait if she can promise it's something she can do one day, not something that she can't do *ever*. Just let her know that you'd wait, as long as not in vain.
2006-08-01 17:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by crystal iceberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to honor her decision with regards to her family. She is a better judge of how they would react than you are. By not coming out, she can still maintain some sort of relationship with them. She probably thinks they would never talk to her again, or even worse get her kidnapped and "deprogrammed"! And she may just be right about that.
Your life decisions are yours to make, and if you love her then you have to let her make her decisions. It won't kill you to be discrete around her family. It's just like avoiding politics or religion as conversation topics around someone you know will over-react. It won't even be difficult, since they already know at some level and want to avoid even thinking about it!
2006-08-01 17:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by pondering_it_all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. I am heterosexual, and I am Cuban. My first husband was Welsh. His parents, little did I know, were very prejudice. They lived in New York and we lived in California. I never met them. We got married, but he never told his parents that I was Hispanic. We divorced about a year later. I could not get over the fact that he wanted to hide me. If he loved me, I believe that it would not have been a problem.
2006-08-01 17:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously not wanting to rock the boat with her family situation. You must know how older people react sometimes!!! Give her time, if her family is super religious as you say, it is probably terribly hard on her. Have patience!!!
2006-08-01 17:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't, your partner has to deal with them and you need to support her. Don't take it as a slight to you or your relationship, she is still with you and has had to deal with them longer. Losing your family is a pretty heady subject and one day she may include you but for now for whatever reason, if you love her, don't push. In the end you may be the only family she has or needs.
2006-08-01 17:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by pritch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first look at it from her point of view her family would disown her most fanatical believers have strong family ties she doesn't know if you two will last so she need the family support give her time don't push her she knows you want her to come out to her family and in time she will hope this helps
2006-08-01 17:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and understanding...let her deal with it her own way. Why is it so important that her family know?
2006-08-01 17:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she tells them they will accept it...afterall it is their daughter...and they are religious so it may be a help instead of a hindrance..................then again just give her time to tell them ..Waiting for the right moment...There is no real hurry for her to tell them is there..Just be patient she will tell them in time
2006-08-01 17:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her family is more important then you...no offence..
2006-08-01 17:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand her. Maybe she is not a lesbian, she is just curious
2006-08-01 17:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋