Is it okay to..?

Question

Have sex with my 8 month pregnant fiancee ?

Last night, we tried having sex,
it resulted in her screaming in pain,
I mean screaming on the top of her lungs until she couldn't breathe..
It was horrid.

We spoke with the doctor, he said that tonight we just have to sit down,
and try this:
I have to insert into her, and hold it for 30 minutes.
We have to it 4 times,
we covered it the first time,
but she was screaming again,
she was in so much pain,
she was crying...
The doctor said that...
we should try until she feels relieved enough
to do it reguraly,
but i'm scared that something will go wrong...
If this is okay to have sex..
What are some good positions to use to get more comfortable ?

Answer 1

if it is causing her this much pain it couldnt be a good thing usually is is safe to have sex right up until birth but sex should not hurt and painful sex now could lead to bad feelings about sex for her after the baby is born maybe you could try otherr ways of being intimate and getting each other off in the meantime

Answer 2

I don't know what kind of doctor she has, but he seems to be a jerk! Some women have no problem with having sex while they are pregnant and others end up in a lot of pain, especially after the first trimester and most especially once you reach 8 months.

If it's uncomfortable for her or hurts her enough to make her scream, you should just wait until after the birth of the baby and until she heals from that (anyplace from 6 weeks to 3 months depending on how easy or hard the birth was).

Be a dear and do not put her through it again. If you need relief, there are other ways that you both can take care of it.

At this point in her pregnancy there is not a whole lot of anything, especially new positions or sex that is going to be comfortable for her...except maybe laying down or sitting with her legs up and trying to nap when she can. She needs to save up on energy to go through labor...they don't call it that because it's a walk in the park...it is a lot of hard, hard and very painful work.

I hope you will be there for her during this part of her work and be supportive. I hope you're going to go to prenatal classes so you'll know what to do and what is going on too.

Best of luck and give her a nice surprise, some flowers and tell her that you're more than willing to wait for sex until after the baby is here and she's feeling better!

Answer 3

I would not care what the doctor was telling me about having sex with my boyfriend at eight months pregnant. You need to be more considerate of your girlfriend and of your baby. If you truly love your girlfriend, making her scream in pain is just not acceptable. Hasn't the doctor ever told you that intercourse this late in a pregnancy could send her into premature labor. This doctor sounds like a real prize (and that is an insult, if you don't know) and I would be helping my girlfriend find a new doctor if I were you. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

While it is common for a pregnant woman to experience some discomfort with sex, it isn't really all that common for her to be in pain severe enough for the type of reaction you are describing. Did the doctor examine her to determine the source of the pain? If it is hurting her that badly, you are probably best off not having sex for the time being.

Answer 5

have her get on top. but to be honest she is already 8 months pregnant and only has one more month to go. would it really kill you to wait for another month well really 2 since after she has the baby you need to wait a month or at least try to wait a month. You could also try it doggy style or anally or just have her give you head. You arent going to shrivel up and die or it disapear if you be patient for 2 months. If it hurts her why keep trying to force the issue. get some head instead.

Answer 6

sorry at 8 months is not okay to have sex because the baby head should be down in the uterous is only okay to have sex at 1-6 months . thats why it hurts your fiancee because the baby is down if you keep having sex you can have a early labor and you don't want that if you really want have sext just make movement not the real thing because you really can hurt her

Answer 7

Because of her hormones and all that great stuff we pregnant women go through, Her vagina tissues are swollen and being that pregnant, it is hard to get aroused..meaning no natural lubrication. Try some Ky gel, from behind is better, and don't jam it in there! And darn it if she don't feel comfortable just stop. Put her needs first..she is having your child.

Answer 8

What kind of doctor are you going to that would tell you to keep doing something to your fiance that was causing her pain? That's not a smart thing to do. If it hurts her then it's obviously not the thing to do. Stop having sex until she has the baby. You can do it.

Answer 9

She's giving you a hint, buddy..no offense. Pregnant women really don't want sex with a big belly hanging out. It is not comfortable for them. Hang out for another month...just 1 more month and try to be patient with her. Good Luck!

Answer 10

well, you could try by having her get on her knees and bending over as far as she can, not pushing her stomach to hard, have her open her knees and put her butt up in the air (sounds weird, but try it) this opens the female area more, try it gently, if she screams... well you know, but hold her stomach, gently rub it, maybe have her take some pain meds, that are safe to take while pregnant, and try it! good luck!... ooh, and by the way, i dont mean anally!! that will hurt!