My husband is overseas until May 26, 2007 but will come home for Christmas for two weeks. I am thinking about having my IUD removed before he comes home so we may try to conceive during his visit. Should we go for it, knowing I will be alone for 5 months of the pregnancy or wait until he gets home next year? I have a 6 yr old son already from a previous relationship and want a sibling for him ASAP. Any advice on this matter is truly helpful. Thank you.
2006-08-01 16:16:07 · 25 answers · asked by M.Kaaua 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I say go for the baby, you both would still be able to enjoy the last few months of the pregnancy together as well as the delivery. While he is serving the last 5 months of deployment, you will have a piece of him with you until his return.
2006-08-01 16:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by mcski2000 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's a toughie... I think I would go for it - it could take longer than that two weeks. You may not even ovulate in that two week period. If your last preg was easy, go for it. If you had a rough time... I don't know.
I'd also consider your 6 year old. If you have much trouble with him I'd wait. But if he's a good boy (and especially a good helper) you might try. *For anyone who misunderstands me; no, I am not saying to make the 6 year old a slave - just consider how the other child will react.*
2006-08-01 23:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was in the Navy when I was expecting my son 16 years ago and was alone a lot even when the Navy is state side they go out every so often for 2-3 weeks so your husband will be there for the last 4 months just think about that I would go for it. good luck Steffy
2006-08-01 23:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are agreed on trying to conceive, I would say go for it. Unless you get sick early in your pregnancy, he will be home during the part of your pregnancy that you will need him the most, if you were to get pregnant. He may miss early appointments and ultrasounds, but he will be getting home just at the time when the baby is showing and kicking.
2006-08-01 23:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough to answer: on the one hand, you don't want to go through pregnancy alone, but you want your children to be close in age. I suggest talking to your husband and asking him his opinion. If I was in your place, I would wait until he is around. Your six year old can wait a few months more for a sibling.
2006-08-01 23:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
M. Kaaua, Think about if it were you having to be away and missing out on the first 5 months of something so special.!? Missing the Joy of holding you every night is probably torcher enough, let alone missing holding you and the baby(:)). Besides, how sad do you think it would make him feel for not getting to be there to take care of you?
Wait... and enjoy the Blessed Occasion TOGETHER.!!!
Good Luck and Best Wishes for you and your family!!
2006-08-01 23:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by hope_help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! WAIT! WAIT! You do not want to be alone for those 5 months. You want to do this together, including his being able to go with you to some of your dr appointments, being there for the ultrasound, to be supportive during the difficult times... and if this is his first, you don't want to take that away from him either. This is a partnership that you should do together, if at all possible.
2006-08-01 23:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not see how your husband feels about this? It would be his child too? He might want to experience the phases of pregnancy with you (as much as he can) and he can't do that if he is away. He will want to hear the heartbeat for the first time, see your tummy grow, feel the baby move, etc. Please don't shut him out of this experience if he wants to be there for it.
So, ask him and then make your decision based on what he would prefer.
2006-08-01 23:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by ilse72 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. War can change someone and your husband needs some time to readjust to you and your family. Adding a pregnancy into the mix now just complicates things. Besides, it gives you something to look forward to working on when he returns.
2006-08-01 23:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my honest opinion.. I would go for it.... You could write him and ask his opinion about it .... Or have it removed and discuss it when he comes home... Either way, I say throw the idea out there to him and see what happens... I think you will be having a baby with in a year.. good luck and tell him thank you for what he does!!
2006-08-01 23:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by kutskova29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋