I want to tell my brother i am bi. I am not sure how to tell him or how he will take it. I am afraid that if i tell him he will take it bad. i have no reason for this butjust want to get some answers. how did other people take it that were told. i have only heard the horror stories. i dont want to become one of the horror stories. My brother and i are close, we are best friends but live in diffrent cities. should i tell him and how?
2006-08-01 16:05:54 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well, if you are so close, he will feel happy that you share that with him. It's not something easy to tell, and he knows that for sure. Consider it an act of trust.
I told my older brother in a very curious way. We were on the car, and i had gone on a uni trip and had just returned. And when my father, who was driving, asked me if i had kissed a lot during the trip, i said yes. Then my father was happily laughing, and i showed my brother the picture of me kissing a guy in my digital camera, and we started laughing together about my father's laughter. (he was thinking of a girl...)
My brother used to be against gay people, i remember clearly when i was 10yo, now he supports gay marriage and everything. Being close to someone makes us understand and learn a lot.
2006-08-01 16:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you are that close he probably has had you figured out for years.
If you are on your own and independant, just tell him if you are really close to him. It is better for someone that close to you to know rather than lie to them for the rest of your life.
He might cut you off. It might be a short term cut off, it might be forever. If this is the case he will need time and education to adapt. Give him plenty of each. He may not cut you off at all - he might want to know everything there is to know about it. He might even go with you to a gay bar or attend a gay event.
Take the risk.
Just tell him.
Speaking for my self, I only have told immediate family or just some members of my extended family that I am close too. The family that I only see at weddings and funerals - I feel no need to tell them. It is my business.
If you love someone that much you owe it to them and to you to be honest about your self.
2006-08-01 16:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a pretty good idea how he feels aobut LBGT people, he is your brother. If he's at all accepting, he should be more accepting of you, you're his brother. But it will be a shock, after all, you've kept a secret from him, so expect a reaction at least at first.
Since you're in different cities, I'd consider a letter. And in the letter, I would apologize for keeping it a secret, and tell him how much his love and acceptance means to you.
2006-08-01 16:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be suprised how most people are abit more open minded about it now. im sure it will be a shock to your brother but your brothers and best friends and hes gonna love you no matter what.... i think it will be better to tell me over the fone or in person you will probably find he will have a better reaction to it... ive got a few bi friends and a few gay ones and i dont look at them any differently i really dont think its that much of a big deal.... n in the end it is your life n you need to enjoy yourself
2006-08-01 16:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have brothers, and we have differnet relationships between each of us.
You're not going to like this answer, and don't take it personally, but what I can tell you, unless your brother, is extremely understanding, he is NOT going to take it well, at least initially.
I would not take it well, as I do not approve of that behavior personally, but at the same time as long as you don't bother me with it, and whoever you are sharing yourself with is also up for it, then good luck!
2006-08-01 16:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by alpine_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and tell him. He might come out of a bag on you, then he might not. He'll love you no matter what(if you're really that close to him). Coming out is never easy, so just be you, no matter what the outcome is. Here's a list of websites that might help you. Good luck, sweetie!
2006-08-01 16:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you might want to try just talking to him and see how he feels about bi's and gays and if he asks why you tell him that you have a "friend" online or school friend that is that way and you don't know what to think of him and if the reaction is bad then you wait a while and then you give him clues and then you just tell him good luck
-danays
2006-08-01 16:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Danays 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to tell him, just when it is right for the both of you. He may not take it the way you like,it sounds like anytime right now might be good for you! But given the right circumstances he might be able to understand. That's a tough one. I wish you all kinds of luck!
2006-08-01 16:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to do the same thing many years ago. Almost identical situation, except I'm gay. My brother was really amazing about it. He says he always knew, but was waiting for ME to say something. If you're really that close, he might surprise you. It's really worth it to have someone on your side...Good luck!
Unfortunately, you see the caliber of dilholes who respond to this kind of thing. Be proud of who you are.
2006-08-01 16:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by jake78745 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not something he needs to now. As you can see from these various answers, people in the US believe that if you're bi, you're really a full-on fag. Kinsey tried to show us otherwise, but couldn't find 'bi" in the bible.
2006-08-01 16:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋