How do you tell your friend that you don't want to hang out with her, because her children are monsters?

Question

I love my friend, but she spoils her children rotten. They are rude, annoying monsters, and most of us hate being around them. How do I keep her as friend, but avoid being around her children?

We have been hanging out together with the kids all summer. She got divorced at the beginning of the summer. Her kids were always rude and hyper, but since her husband left they have become so bad, that our friend who never loses her cool, finally did. My teen daughter is the one who watches them when we go out, but now they are being horrible to her. My daughter doesn't deserve this kind of treatment, so I don't want her to sit with them.

I have avoided hanging out with her for almost two weeks now. The last time I watched them, they were so awful, I felt that I seriously needed to become a hermit for a while. I was physically ill from being around them.

I have told her this, she thinks I am kidding.

Answer 1

I understand how u feel. Thats a problem for a lot of people, but u may just have to tell her that u don't enjoy being around her kids because of the way she allowed them to just do and act however. U don't blame the kids u blame her because she's the one to allow them to be this way.

But u just can't stand the way they are and u reallyy rather not be around them because it's too much for u to take.

I hope it works out for u, because people can and will allow they're kids to go wild and they do tend to get mad if someone tells them they should tame they're kids.

I have had to do the same( not hang out with friends because of they're kids) I call bad kids ( BAY BAY KIDS) this comes from a comic who said he dated a woman who's kids were BRATS and everyone in the neighborhood knew of these bad kids and they would refer to them as " Bay Bay Kids(The mother name was Bay Bay)

So whenever I know of kids who are BRATS I call them Bay Bay's kids.

If she gets upset it;s because deep down she knows they're too much to handle but it still bothers her anyway, because she knows she SHOULD tame them but she refuses for whatever reason.

But as I was saying if she gets upset( SO WHAT) she wouldn't have to if she'd take charge of her kids.

Answer 2

This is a hard one.I had the same problem with a friend.I started declining invites,because one of the kids would come along.I was just hard to physically see.I would talk to her for many hours on the phone,but not much in person.She finally asked me if it was her kids,and I said I just missed she and I doing things.It helped some.

Answer 3

Perhaps you can end up going out to places that only allow adults... bars, etc. and she'll either need to get a sitter or sit that one out. Or, you can all sit down with her and let her know you just don't want her kids around because they interfere with you all having a good time.

Answer 4

I have an idea. Why don't you just tell her the truth?

Answer 5

its so easy u cant even believe it. tell her the truth