why am i such a loser with no friends?

Question

school is about to start again and i want to kill my self just thinking about it. because im such a loser im gona be in 11grade last year i skipt lunch every single day and drove around in my car cuz i dont have anyone to sit with... whats a good way to make friends ? and not be shy and scared to sit next to new people at lunch

Answer 1

Just talk to your classmates around you in your classes about random topics that you both are interested in and maybe after awhile get together with them doing something you both enjoy.

Trust me I felt the same way...but that is all changed because I am now going into my first year of College.

Answer 2

Man oh man. Did your question bring back memories. Just keep plugging away and don't give up. Think of the things you like about other people: The things about them that are similar to yourself and the things about them that are different than yourself. Realize that you fill that same role for other people. There are people out there like you and people out there different than you. Some will want to get to know you others will suck. Just be yourself, be comfortable with yourself and get through the day. LIfe is tough and it's great. Close your eyes and jump in the deep end with the rest of us. Anyone tells you different is not real or truthful.

Answer 3

That's sad but you're not alone, really. Do you join in other activities like swimming, or other sports? can you see yourself on the committee of the school paper or joining a club? I think if you joined some activity where other like-minded people congregate you will find people you can inter-act with. Otherwise, you will have to take the bull by the horns, grit your teeth (but not too hard) you want to look friendly not menacing and enter the dining hall or where ever you eat, sit and take it from there.

Answer 4

I had a similar situation when I was a freshman. I couldn't find any friends in lunch, so I'd sit alone for the whole while. Very depressing. Then I found one of my friends, sat with him and his friends. My original friend moved to another lunch, so I kept on sitting with his friends. Eventually I gained their respect, because I respect everyone. Just be friendly.

Answer 5

I'm going into 11th grade as well... but at least you're lucky enough for your school to let you drive around during lunch!

A good way to make friends is to join a club or an activity. I know it sounds crazy, but it gives you people to be around and a chance to make new friends.

Answer 6

Why are you one of those loser calling your chum a loser? a genuine chum accepts their acquaintances unconditionally. search for suggestion out of your chum and gently tell her that the dinosaur difficulty is slightly unusual. i'm no longer certain how previous you're, yet perhaps remind her that it truly is time to act better grown up in public and also you'll play the dinosaur difficulty even as no one else is round.

Answer 7

FIRST OF ALL YOU ARE NOT A LOSER........ LOSERS GIVE UP AND DON'T ASK FOR HELP, AT LEAST YOUR ASKING FOR ADVICE. HONEY YOU NEED TO JOIN MORE CLUBS IN SCHOOL FOR ONE, AND WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE SITTING BY THEMSELVES AT LUNCH JUST GO OVER AND SAY IS THIS SEAT TAKEN, THEN SIT DOWN AND SAY HI MY NAME IS........................ MORE THEN LIKELY THEIR JUST AS SHY AS YOU ARE, THAT'S PROBABLY WHY THEIR SITTING BY THEMSELVES ALSO.SOMETI'MES YOU HAVE TO PUSH YOUR SELF TO DO THINGS, THEN WHEN YOU DO THEM YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOUR SELF. I KNOW YOUR GOING TO LAUGHFOR WHAT I'AM GOING TO SAY NEXT, BUT IF YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR AT YOUR HOUSE SAY TO YOUR SELF I'M THE BEST, IM GREAT LOOKING , I AM NOT SHY, I CAN DO ANYTHING. GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM UP. GOOD LUCK HONEY... THE MIRROR THING REALLY DOES WORK........................

Answer 8

ok less time on the computer and more time in real life

of course you are not going to make friends if you are driving around all lunch hour - you are just polluting the environment - stop doing that

dont worry if you dont have friends in school - ultimately it really doesnt matter... how you turn out in 20-30 years is what really matters....

Answer 9

If you want to make friends just go up and talk to people and if you cant find the courage to do that then just forget about friends be happy just being alone. There's nothing wrong with being an eccentric if you don't believe me read about Diogenes and Epicurus.

Answer 10

You could try to meet other people who are also shy. There are lots of them in high school. Try to practice stopping worrying so much about what people think. Most people, especially high schoolers, are too concerned with their own lives and selves to pay attention to what others are doing or not doing.