okay so one of my friends wrote this email to everyone saying sshittt about my best friend, hannah.. becaues of something that happend... and i showed it to her [ hannah ] because i thought it was the right thing to do. but now hannah is mad at the person that wrote the email. and then.. all of my friends found out that i showed it to her. and they're pissed at me saying i made everything worse... did i do the wrong thing?? sorry if its confusing..
2006-08-01 15:41:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Childish drama. Get morals and don't play the gossip game.
2006-08-01 15:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson to the girl who wrote the bashing email in the first place. And, if you were smart you would take note. Do not put in writing what you don't want other people to see and hear. It usually comes back to bite you in the rear.
Second, you have an obligation to let Hannah know that her, supposed friend is saying bad things about her. And, of course Hannah is going to be mad at her. Wouldn't you be mad if you read something hurtful and mean that one of your friends wrote about you?
Third, if your friends are mad at you for showing Hannah they are not your friends and they are not Hannah's friends.
Gossip and slander only leads to more trouble and bad feelings. The person who started this vicious cycle is the one at fault and your friends are guilty, after the fact. The next time you are involved with crap like that, if its not true you need to stick up for your friend. If it is true, remove yourself from the vicious gossip circle and do not participate.
Remember, in life. No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone, at some point, will be fodder for other people's dinner. Take the high road and don't get involved. Life is too short and you have much better things to do and you can only hope, that this will be one of those situations where Karma actually kicks in.
2006-08-01 22:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing as a friend. Only a true friend will do what you did and you have nothing to feel bad about. The people who are mad at you are just very immature. And you call these people your "friends"? Well friends don't act like that, especially with other friends.
You did the right thing. If wouldn't have never said anything to hannah, that email would probably still be going around. No one should want to see another friend hurt.
You are one of the "true friends" that someone should never let go of.
2006-08-01 22:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Be Told 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh, gossip, a friendship's worst enemy. You did the right thing. If you have a best friend and you know people were talking behind her back, then you should say something about it. Then talk to your friend (hannah in this case) and tell her that you're sorry, and you don't think any of it is true, but you wanted her to know what was going on.
2006-08-01 22:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto that has served me well is never say anything that you don't intend to get back to the person you are saying it about, it always will, if they wanna talk about hannah (I always liked that name because it can be spelled backwards) expect hannah to know about it. being mad is energy that is ill used, hannah needs to use her energy to serve a purpose in her life, not waste it on fools. when you give up your old friends, you will attract new ones of a different caliber, they can be holding you down. break away, you don't need casual friends, one good friend is better than 10 casual ones.
2006-08-03 21:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, disregard some comments on here, becuz you were just being a good friend to hannah, & I would have shown her too, becuz she need to know what type of people she needs to be aware of, but at the same time, sometimes its better left unsaid to avoid the drama but either way drama was going to evaporate; so as for your friends, you say they are pissed, lose them & get better friends cuz they wasnt really your friends if they talked about hannah & probably talking about you. So lose those zeros & get heroes....BYE!
2006-08-01 22:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by monie2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you did the right thing morally even if it didn't turn out too well. what you should've done was confronted the person who wrote the email and stuck up for your friend. you can still do that and if it doesn't work then i have to say they aren't real friends
2006-08-01 22:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Liam K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, which is not always easy to do. It took courage to give that email to Hannah and you showed great loyalty to her. Don't compromise your principles to please your friends. Your real friends will value you for the stand you took, not try to tear you down.
2006-08-01 22:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it sound like those other people are really being friends to you? real friends do not bad mouth each other, or act catty when someone (in this case you) tries to stick up for that friend or at least let her know what is goin on. as long as you aren't participating in the "crap talking" then you did nothing wrong. what those people should have done was to confront your best friend about whatever it was that bothered them so much.
2006-08-01 22:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did not do anything wrong, if hanna is you're friend then you should act as if you are a friend. and those other people are not you're friend nor hanna friend. find a new set of friends they are low lives for talking behind some ones back. and not being man/woman enough to say it face 2 face. you and hanna be encourage
2006-08-01 22:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the drama llama followed you home huh ? seriously, get over it and they will too. this is seriously so childish, try figuring out how to get a couple hundred dollars for your bills in about 3 days. that's a real problem. i really wish i had tiny problems like that again,instead of what an adult deals with.
2006-08-01 23:11:11 · answer #11 · answered by Tammy ™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋