I am single father of two girls 5 & 3 am I wrong for not calling there mom when she has not called for 2 weeks

Question

The mother has not called now for 2 weeks to talk to the girls and before that is was almost three weeks. She has asked that I call, but when I did she was not there I have tried twice. Should I try harder

Answer 1

Do the best you can do. The girls need to talk to their mother, and if the mother is not answering for some sort of reason then just leave a few messages. Maybe even let the girls leave a few messages.

Answer 2

Do you have full custody? why isnt the mom around? depending on the situation..Like if shes military despite the fact i think ALL female personel in the military are sluts and hoe bags, yes you should try harder. But it was also her choice.....to join....so there should be a limit..of how hard u try and how long u wait for her to call. DO not disrupt your or your girls lives for the mom to call..

if your not sitll with the mom and have full custody then she shold try harde.r.tellher..that it is NOT your job to calll her but her job to call her girls...if it has been a day or two..give her one call and only one call.. if this happens more than 2 consequatively or 3 times non conseq..stop calling her..and tell her...that you are no longer going to call her...if she wants to talk to HER girls she should make time to call
but be pleasant

Answer 3

I say call 1 more time and leave a message and if she does not return that call then stop but make sure you have some type of proof you tried to call her. If you do not have proof you called her the last 2x I suggest calling her another 3x and making sure you have proof you called. You never know when you will need to prove you did try to contact her and was not trying to keep her away from the girls.

Answer 4

As sneaky as it sounds you might want to continue to call at regular intervals...every other day....every three days...or whatever and make sure you document the call yourself with either voice or video. Sometime in the future she might come back legally saying that you kept the kids from her by not calling or something..this way you keep up your end of the deal. Do this recording for like 2 months at least...if in that time you don't get in contact with her..discontinue unless the kids ask. But when they do...DO NOT put her down..say something like "Mommy is probably at work or at the store and isn't home" Don't poison them against her it will come back to haunt you later. When they are older then you can tell them the truth about what happened, then it will be up to her to explain herself to them.

Answer 5

I think you should call if you see that your girls are having a hard time, or if they ask ...
Someday she will realize what she missed. She will NEVER be able to get the time back. Please make sure that you have some great women in your daughters lives, they will need a good female role model.
My mom left when I was 2-- now Im grown
More sad for her....

Answer 6

if the shoe were on the other foot women would be all on your back for not calling to check up on your children. it is obvious that she feels she has more important things to do than to call and check on her children. you are not wrong nor should you feel bad. if you are being the best father you can to your girls then keep doing what you do!it is not your responsibility to check in with her. your hands are probably full enough as it is raising those girls.

Answer 7

I think that if the girls are asking about their mother then yes you should try and call her. If they aren't asking then I'd just leave it alone. I feel so bad for your girls, this has got to be hard on them.

Answer 8

No, if she wants to see her kids, she should be responsible enough to call and visit on her own. you should not have to chase her around. Just let her now that she is hurting your girls with her behavior. I suggest you live your life and raise your little girls to be better women than their mother., don't spend their young years bickering with their mother...enjoy them and have fun with your girls, the mother will come around.


Good Luck

Answer 9

sounds very similar to what i went through in 1989. their father hadn't called in six months and didn't acknowledge them at christmas. he was mad that I moved away. I did my best to show the girls that I felt bad that their dad didn't call them and that I knew that they missed and loved him. I had the chance to confront him about this when he called about a death in the family. I told him that I expected him to show his daughters respect and not take me out on them. Let time be the answer and be there for your daughters no matter what. it took my oldest daughter 14 years to figure dad out. We are now very close. My second daughter is still looking for mommy and daddy approval. (She is 19). No matter what just be there for them.

Answer 10

Evidently she doesn't care about her own kids. I say if she really wanted to talk to your kids then she would make the effort. But clearly she must be having too much fun being single now to care for anyone else but herself. So don't keep trying, make her call you. Thats how it should be.