Either we raise our young men and boys to treat women kindly and to care for them, or we don't. Do you agree?
2006-08-01 15:15:13 · 8 answers · asked by man_id_unknown 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes...it is learned in the home the boys are raised in
2006-08-01 16:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by running2adream 6 · 6⤊ 4⤋
I think we all need to be kinder to each other... to care for each other... regardless of gender, race or religion.
I'm raising my sons to be kind to everyone. My oldest son has a particular young man in his circle of friends who has some quirks. I think he's an undiagnosed obsessive compulsive. He's been known to show up at our house claiming to be bored and ask if he can wash our cars. He doesn't just wash them, he details them. I always have to argue with him for twenty minutes and insist on giving him twenty bucks per car because he does such an immaculate job of it. It's not just because a pro would charge me more like $75 that I want to express my gratitude, but I want him to know there is value for any job well done.
He can be obsessive about other things too... to the point where some of his other friends go through phases of avoiding him. My son will call them on it and point out that if they don't include this guy he's never going to be comfortable in these situations... usually parties involving girls. My son was right. This kid now has a girlfriend and many of the others don't. *L*
To me that's chivalry... giving everyone equal treatment regardless of the circumstances and giving a helping hand to those who need it, even if it's not the easiest thing to do.
2006-08-02 10:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chivalry should be upheld, but I don’t think this question is best posted on a “Women’s Studies” board. It is a father (or a father-figure) that should serve as a role model. Boys need male role models. I have seen too many single, well intentioned women trying to raise boys into good men, but many fail because they don’t have a good male role model.
2006-08-02 00:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by MARK M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there should be a lot more young men learning from there fathers and other respectful men how to treat girls and women.But if for some reason the father is not there,the responsibility becomes the rest of the village.
2006-08-01 23:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. But I think you can only go so far. Men can't go to far caring for women because women are getting independent. I like it when guys open doors for me or carry something or do something nice, but I don't want to be barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen...
2006-08-01 22:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by shoeless wonder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should have nothing to do with chivalry....it should be common courtesy. How one person treats another person regardless of sex. When women are treated as the "weaker" sex you have problems with stalking...wanting to kill us when we leave them....feeling as though you have to put up with cr** because they are the man. I can open my own doors...what I wanted was someone who respected and loved me and that's what I have. (31 years now)
2006-08-01 23:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say we first start raising our young women to take care of themselves.
2006-08-02 19:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by wanderer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men must. the society expects them!
2006-08-01 23:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by az2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋