well i got married at 15. my parents wanted me to get married because they walked in on me and my boyfriend. we have been married for three years now. he doesn't satisfy my sexual needs and he knows. he trys everything but nothing really helps. so i noticed i was making him feel bad so now i just pretend everything is fine. Theres this other guy that i started seeing in one rocky moment in the relationship. we had a relationship before now were just sex buddies i like him as a friend and he's good in bed. i feel bad cheating on my hubby but a girls gotta have satisfaction too. what do you guys think i should do? go on with it or just stop this nonscence and be moody because i don't get it from my husband? thanks for ur help!!! loves ya/
2006-08-01 15:11:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know how to answer this one. Maybe Jerry Springer can.
2006-08-01 15:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by inthrvster@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still a kid, but you need to grow up...get out of the marriage, and live the single life you SHOULD have lived, and have the sexual experiences you should have experienced BEFORE you decided to get married some time in your mid to late 20's or so...
Stop cheating...its wrong...it's hurtful, and if it's ever done to you, you won't have any right to be the least bit upset about it...by doing it, you are saying it's okay for it to be done to you...do you really want to be with someone you dig and find out he's got someone on the side? Hmmmm? Do ya?
*shakes head* You "needing satisfaction" doesn't justify your behavior...you're a human, not an animal rutting around out of instinct...you can exercise self control...good judgement...honesty...loyalty...and orgasm isn't worth the kind of person you've turned yourself into...
2006-08-01 15:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st mistake- marrying this man so young.
Honey, marriage is not like having a boyfriend/girlfriend you can just dump when things go bad. Do you still even love him?
Y'all both are still young (I'm assuming he is too). I honestly cannot advise you on anything else but to find new ways of satisfying each other because y'all made vows. Going out & finding someone else to help get off w/ is going to cause issues for marriage because you're ignoring your husband's needs & it's gonna eventually become obvious. Good Luck
2006-08-01 15:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why the heck you had to get married at 15 years of age anyway.Just because you're parents walked in on you and you're boyfriend.That was the wrong reason for you're parents to make you and you're boyfriend to get married. I could have found a better way to punish you for getting caught.If i were you're mom and dad.I would have grounded you and told you that you can't see that boy ever again.As far as you being unhappy. get a divorces and get remarried when you feel the time is right.
2006-08-01 15:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to notice that you ve been married for 3 years but you were 15! so...you didnt have anough time to date different guys and discover how´s life outthere..so i think is normal for you to feel insecure and try to find something else...the thing is your husband...for my marriage is an institution that i respect cause i would love to have a great one but if you dont feel that way ...is no problem for you.
I would probably feel terrible just because i ve always thought that if you are with someone that you dont love anymore you should tell him...cause would you like that he have an affair and not tell you? and then go and have sex with you? it´s not right not only cause you are married...is not ok with you cause you are not having a good time and i can asure you your hubby neither...so try to talk to him and try new stuff and new kamasutra positions...some lotion...some exotic food...go a fancy restaurant...buy some sexy lingerie and try...if that doesnt work ..well call a divorce lawyer
2006-08-01 15:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i, think it up to you and your feeling.
you should ask your husband if he still love you like he use to but ask your self first if you still love him like you use to. you were young and confuse when you maried this guy, do you want to be 25 and not happy with your sexual life? do u want to be a six year cheater, how ask your self how long can i continue cheating my self, how long can i go on trying to pretend it's ok when it not, can i do it for the next ten years or 20 years or manny years to came, you can eathier communicate with your husband how to make your sex life more enjoyeble, if you love him some times sex is not everythink, but it part of a relationship, show him how both of you can make it batter or stop hurting your self mantally and stop hurting your husband sicallorgically.
2006-08-01 15:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of the marriage. You cant be forced to marry in the USA.and unless there are kids ,there should be no ties that bind.And I could not believe that any parent would marry their child off unless they just wanted to get rid of them.
2006-08-01 15:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by mrimprovize59@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce ur husband... he sounds like a loser 2 me...
And then mail a dead woodchuck to your lover with a note saying"Unlike this woodchuch, my love 4 u will never die"
Come on lady! Give ur hubby a chance! get somew counceling!
2006-08-01 15:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider how you would feel if you truly loved someone and found out they were cheating, lying and just disrespecting who you are. It's really unfair to your husband what you are doing and you should consider making a choice.
2006-08-01 15:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Texan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try telling your husband what gets you off? If you tell him in a loving way, & help guide him when needed, you might be suprised with the results!! he obviously doesn't have enough experience to satisfy you without your help!!
2006-08-01 15:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by applpro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know exactly because it's not good either way. However, I think that if you do have to pick one, then pick divorce because it’s better than openly cheating on your husband.
2006-08-01 15:22:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋