my best friends boyfriend snogged another girl but i don't want to tell her incase she thinks i am trying to break them up ?
2006-08-01 15:08:01 · 14 answers · asked by wee smithy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The thing is, an intimate relationship is sometimes so personal that for a best friend to be the bearer of bad news is too much. Its like when we really make mistakes, we can talk to one or two people, like mum or best friend, but we dont always tell the whole truth because we are worried our friends will think us stupid or weak. We all need to save face. Perhaps it would be wise to put it out your head, and say nothing until your friend brings it up. Maybe she knows and is about to chuck him but wants to give u a different reason so she doesnt look like she was a soft touch.
On the other hand it is painful to see this happen and we all say "i wish u had told me", because its better coming from a good friend who can support her thru it. I would only tell her if you and her are truly best friends, otherwise it could be taken badly.
2006-08-01 15:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Allasse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just hate it when that happens?? And I know how you feel because you'd react the same way if your best friends tells you, your bf has snogged another girl. Well, you'll just have to face it and tell it to her in the best, subtle manner that you can think of. Tell her, you care about her & her feelings and you don't want her to get hurt. If you are really good, best friends she'll understand and in the end will thank you for telling her.
And under no circumstances, if she leaves him, get involved with him. Then your relationship with is as good as gone!!
Good luck.
2006-08-01 22:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, does he know that you know? If you catch him with another girl again maybe you should have your friend meet up with you at the same time in a nearby spot then play innocent when the sh** hits the fan - only joking.
Telling her would be the right thing to do but do you want to catch the brunt of that anger? Usually the target for someone's anger isn't the guilty one it's usually the one that did the telling in the first place.
2006-08-01 22:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i knew that my mates boyfriend has snogged another girl i would go around this problem in 2 different ways
1) I would wait untill he see's her again
2)Or i would tell my mate straight away instead of her gettin hurt really bad.
2006-08-01 22:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh ; tricky situation . It would be good if you had proof of this happening but if not ; you should still tell her . If she doesnt believe you just tell her that you thought she had a right to know what was happening & that you care about her & didnt want her to find out the wrong way . You are just trying to help out your best friend ... hopefully she will believe you :] Good luck .
2006-08-02 02:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by ASHLEY MARiiE <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldnt want 2 hurt her but iw ould have 2 tell her out of loyalty
i once had a really good friends boyfriend come on 2 me n try n snog me. i felt bad. n scared 2 tell her. id idnt tell her. i wishi hd
he cheated on her again n she found out. i could have spared her a bit more hurt if i had been a good friend n told her
2006-08-01 23:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by marzipanchan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the boyfriend and tell him waht you saw. Threaten him that you will tell your friend if he does it again.
My cousin was in this situation and she set him up with a girl but he had no idea that she had done it and that she was a frined of hers. She was flirting with him to see if he would fall for it. He did. You can try this if you want.
2006-08-02 06:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Queen Scorpio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blame Bush/Blair
2006-08-01 22:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by A True Gentleman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i would tel her, cause if she finds out u knew & didnt tel her,that would hurt more,anyway if she is a real friend,she wont think your trying 2 split them up.
speaking from experience.i told my friend plenty of times her boyfriend was playing around,she didnt believe me,and we had so many bad fights,but when she saw it 4 herself,she felt so stupit,& couldnt be more sorry 2 me,so take d chance,cause she is wasting time on him
2006-08-02 04:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by vavoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not happy and if he ever does it again you will tell her. Then when you are all together drop snotty comments which will make him look guilty so that she will question him.
2006-08-02 05:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by stardust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋