She did some real crap to me and she doesnt understand what she did wrong even though i keep telling her. the thing is if i completely stop talking to her, she could spread crap about me to people that really dont need to know that stuff. i kinda have to keep being friends with her so she wont tell people my secrets. how can i get rid of her without her walking away bitter?
2006-08-01 14:31:58 · 19 answers · asked by california gurlie poo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her how really feel and tell her, I don't think this relationship is healthy and I feel that I need to move on, something along these lines. Be honest with yourself and follow your gut. I know that we feel guilty hurting people, but don't forget about you because you are important to you and you only.:O) Sometimes we need to go in different directions to make ourselves feel better and we tend to forget our well being. You don't want to be around toxic people.
2006-08-01 14:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by poshbaby24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very ticklish situation, one which unfortunately for u will not end good because the mere fact that she's done alotta bad things to u, shows she doesn't like u nor never really did so ur just gonna have to accept the fact that watever secret u revealed to her will become public no matter wat u do cause once she's made up in her mind that she's gonna tell others, there's nothing u can do to stop her. Who's to say that she hasn't already told ppl about it? All I can tell u is that when u do end the friendship and she does rat on u that even though it may be embarissing at first because u'll have to face those who know, it will all blow over in time. And during this period, u'll be able to decipher who are ur true friends as opposed to the fakes. So just do wat u know is right, walk with ur head high and take comfort in knowing that even though u maybe at ur lowest, there's one thing no human can ever take from u and that's ur dignity so all the best and just ignore this girl. She's not worth the effort.
2006-08-01 21:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nightmare.
My advice? Confront your other friends and let them know the deal before SHE does. Tell them they may hear some rumours about you from her because that's her form of revenge on you for dropping her as a "friend". Tell them what she's done to you and that you intend on letting her go as a friend.
Listen, no matter what, your REAL friends will stand by you, no matter what kind of trash she talks about you.
You NEED to get rid of her. No need to have toxic people in our lives. Who needs the stress? Try to do it in as civil a manner as possible. Talk about it as calmly as you can. If she yells or gets nasty, just walk away from it. No need to sink to her level.
Ya dig?
2006-08-01 21:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little by little ease yourself away. Don't be available everytime she calls.....if she comes by to see you have your mom tell her you're asleep or grounded......find another person to be friendly with and when she wants to hang out bring the other person along. Just gradually move her out.
In the future never tell anyone anything about yourself that you wouldn't want other people to know. It takes a really long time to find a person you can trust to call them "your friend".
2006-08-01 21:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a baby, if u feel that she's not ur friends anymore, it is time to stop pretending.
trust me, i had a friend for 17 years, but the time came and i realized who she really was. i haven't spoken to her for past 2 years. and yes! she did spread crap about me, but u know what, people that really love and care for u would never listen to stuff like that.
good luck
2006-08-01 21:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by KATЯ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if you really want to be rid of her, be prepared to fess up to everything she could spill. It could get ugly, but once it's over with, she will have no leverage. Just tell her that until she understands what she did to you and why it's hurt you, you can't continue pretending not to be hurt.
Good luck with it.
2006-08-01 21:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry about what others may think. if she's going to spread your business, she's gonna do it regardless if she's your "friend" or not. personally i'd get rid of her asap because the longer you remain her friend, the more she'll find out about you, therefore the more rumors she can spread. a real friend doesn't spread your business to anyone. i'd kick her to the curb, and dust myself off after falling from kicking her so hard.
2006-08-01 21:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by moneymakerchic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess there is alot missing from this question.... but t rying to answer with just what i read.......hmmmmmmm..... maybe if she's your "best friend" then talking ***i mean REALLY talking" to her would mean more then trying to get rid of her.... seriously think about this if she was your best friend would she have done "this horrible" thing to you on purpose?????? rethink what it means to be a best friend first before trying to lose something that might be really special to you.... G/L
2006-08-01 21:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by unsure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that the friendship has become toxic to you and you need to take care of you. Tell her that its time that you had space, and that its not ok for her todo hurtful and mean things to you.
2006-08-01 21:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about the situation, makesureshe inderstand and say that how yyou are gratefull and will always be gratefull of her friendship, but you need to move on from it. bye
2006-08-01 21:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by calabashsweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋