it's causing a lot of tension and i can't even speak to my family because i feel so hurt.
2006-08-01 14:28:09 · 26 answers · asked by marinegrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im on your side, they are two jerks
2006-08-01 14:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this will sound hard, but it can't hurt any more to try it. BE THE BIGGER PERSON! Sure, your ex-hubby is now with your step-sister, ask yourself, "why?" Is it because he's trying to get back at you? Or are they genuinely happy together? I know it's really hard, and feels like a betrayal of the highest, but if they are really just happy together, you need to breathe, let it go, and remember he's your "ex" for a reason. If you filed for divorce, there is no one to blame, but yourself for the fact that he's not your husband anymore and there had to have been SOMETHING that made you take that drastic step. Remember what that thing was and realize that the step-sister is probably going to get the same treatment. If it was the other way around, well, I can understand the hurt more.
Like I said though, regardless of which senerios are correct, be the bigger person. Try to let it roll off as much as you can. Avoid some family situations, but don't let yourself be controlled by their presence. Be civil and polite. If he is just using her to piss you off, well this will be the opposite effect he was hoping for. And if they are just happy together, you'll be helping yourself cope and move on.
I would also suggest that seeing a concelour (sp?) wouldn't be a bad idea. Not just for this situation, but to help you in general. It sounds like the divorce might have had a lot of effect on you that could possibly be helped along with some professional input.
*hugs*
I hope all works out. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 14:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do and nothing's wrong with it. I think you should be glad that she's your step sister.
Guess she's not a smart person after all. Smart people learn from other people's mistake.
Just ignore them, go out and have some fun. And don't try to confront or convince her or anyone. Not worth it. You will be a bag guy in everyone's eye if you do. Life is too short to waste your time on something you can't control. Take care.
2006-08-01 14:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kipper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on your sister in law. She is the reason in laws have such a bad reputation. Remember that he is your ex though and for a good reason. He may even be doing this as a mind game to hurt you more. Time will heal all wounds though and just because they are family doesn't mean you have to be there when your ex and step sister are around.
2006-08-01 14:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry that is happening to you! I would feel betrayed, at least. You need to remove yourself from your family if they cannot see how hurtful something like this is. I separated from my family for 25 years because of something similar. It was worth it to gain my self-confidence and self-repsect. It is hard to feel good about yourself when the ones who are supposed to make you feel good stab you in the back. Good Luck. Keep your needs first.
2006-08-01 14:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not okay, and you are being betrayed, 3 times over, not 2. Two by the stepsister(its always double betrayal when it is family) and once by the ex. Shoot 'em. Seriously, though, they will get their just desserts, we all do, in good time. Hold your head high, and i would not speak to my family, no matter how much you might want to. It will get better, and i am sorry, i know it has to hurt. Time..........................and revenge. Keep that head high.
2006-08-01 14:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by caelestisinferno64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck! Your immediate family all need to go to a shrink, I would cut my family out of my life if they were like that! You deserve much better. I would tell my biological parent that if that was the way they wanted to treat me that I would be better off as an orphan, and shut the door to my life and lock it, & throw away the key.
2006-08-01 14:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel betrayed. Family should not do things like that. It makes you have trust issues. And it makes you have low self-esteem. I know its hard to move on and not have hard feelings about the situation but you need to move forward. As far as your family situation, I think it is horrible that they don't suport your feelings. Stay strong and I hope things work out.
2006-08-01 14:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breathe. i know how do u feel. by the way life must go on.don't give up.i think ur family do love u but they also want good thing 4 ur step-sister.if u feel hurt by seeing their together, told ur self that u are the best and you deserve the best, more than any one. rileks and smile. cheer ur life and do some charity to forget about this.now is ur hard time but believe me, it will be over soon.
2006-08-01 14:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what sinful relationships do. They cause confusion, tension, heartache, and absolutely no good feelings whatsoever. But didn't you divorce him? Why did you get a divorce? Was it because of adultery? Could it be that your divorce was the start of the ball rolling? Sin makes more sin.
2006-08-01 14:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why. Your family evidently doesnt care or are ignorant as to how it makes you feel. Have you told them? Maybe your ex is doing this to upset you. Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 14:32:32 · answer #11 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋