I have been good friends with this one particular girl for over a year now. We both loved each other and told one another that but once i tried to make my move and ask her out, she claimed she wasn't ready. After long talks over the course of a few months she told me she got bored of me and didn't like me anymore and that i should of asked her out and made it happen before she got bored of me, maybe i should of made my move but i didn't want to push her. We still remained good friends hanging out everyday or so but now shes talking with other guys and is trying to i guess isolate me from her, which annoys me alot. My question is how would i be able to finally get her out of my mind and finally stop all the stress she has been causing me these last few months b/c honestly i cant stand living like this with her playing me in every way imaginable and not respecting the honesty and love that i gave her in the past. i know this may sound stupid but i had to let it out and thanks in advance
2006-08-01 14:16:57 · 8 answers · asked by Justin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
poor guy! u must be really in love with that girl..
well,there's only one thing you need to do. Wake up!
For 'dumpees' the world over, the BIG question is: How in the heck am I supposed to fall out of love with my ex?
The biggest mistake most people make when they breakup with their partner is to believe that they somehow have to instantly, magically "fall out of love" with their ex. That simply is just not so. Feel the love for your ex in your heart, allow the memories and good feelings to flow if you want.. but just remember while allowing your heart to feel the love to also use your brain to receive feedback that it is over and will not work out. Feel free to feel the love but accept the fact that it is over, Too. You can love him/her for the rest of eternity if you'd like. There is NO reason to think you have to 'fall out of love' with him/her.. however you do need to go through the grief of loss, the withdrawal from that which has become an addiction if you'd like, and acknowledge and accept that the relationship is over. This is the key to getting past the grief to a point where our hearts are open and love can re-enter our lives.
But.. you can't just 'will' your heart to not love someone anymore than you can will your heart not to beat. It just isn't possible! What is possible, however, is to 'allow' yourself to fall out of love. If the relationship is over then stop fighting it, and learn to accept it - learn how to 'allow' your heart to stop loving your ex.
To 'allow' your heart to stop loving your ex is hard - it means admitting to ourselves that the relationship is over, and that we will be okay - no matter what. To allow your heart to fall out of love means to open it back up and 'allow' others in. You can speed up this process by either getting rid of anything that reminds you of your ex, or by packing it away - out of sight. By clinging to the love you are not keeping the relationship alive - like your mind has convincingly deceived you into believing - all you are doing is keeping the grief alive.
Get new interests, change something about yourself or your life that you were dissatisfied with, find new hobbies, join clubs or groups and make new friends. This is a time of rebirth for you - a second chance at life - so go for it with all the gusto that you possibly can!
GOODLUCK DUDE!
2006-08-01 16:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by zhan 3 · 12⤊ 1⤋
its very hard to let someone go, and get them off your mind. for your own mental health, u should stop being friends with her. if shes gonna treat u the way she has been, that means that she doesnt respect u or your feelings. shes isolating u and she said shes gotten bored of you, so just let her go. i know it will be hard to let her go, but u have to. i had to let a guy go that treated me like a dog that i wanted back. it was the best thing for me because now im dating a wonderful guy. youll find someone else out there. theres other fish in the sea, just stay strong and hang in there.
2006-08-01 14:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to forget about someone but I think this girl is definitely not worth your bother. She sounds very immature if she can say she is bored with you after you have been friends for so long. Try and concentrate on other things, as I said though, it's tough. Good luck!
2006-08-01 14:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by charmed one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this situation is hard for you. But, if you loved this girl as much as you say you did, then you can't just get over her. It will be hard and it will take time, but you will eventually get over her. Just put some space between the two of you and start talking to other girls and do things with other people.
2006-08-01 14:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have realized she was stringing you along and that is half the battle right there!!! THe best way to get over her is to go out into the world and spread your wings. Meet new people try new things....oneday she will realize what she missed out on. Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-08-01 14:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you know she is playing you. and most of all doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you . she is not worthy, find a decent girl and you will soon forget about the other.
2006-08-01 14:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do some fun mind-distracting things, (If you have any) like watching TV, or playing Furcadia or something.
2006-08-01 14:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Hannad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put someone else on your mide
2006-08-01 14:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by lady looney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋