My girlfriend is 16 and wants a baby now, what should I do?

Question

I am deeply in love with my girlfriend! We are 16. We wanted a baby and tried a few times but no results. After looking up things on the internet and thinking about it more i decided that there is no rush, I plan and want to be with her for the rest of my life why can't we just wait till at least after high school? When i tried to talk to her about it she got mad. She still really wants a baby right now. I have always wanted to give her everything and anything that i can. I feel bad and really don't know what to do!

Answer 1

whats the rush,you are both young,be sensible use a condom enjoy your life,you got plenty of time to have babies later,may be start getting a job,save cause bringing up babies aint cheap.enjoy life to the full cause once you start having babies you will have such responsibilities,do you both really wanna be tied down with that at such a young age.is there some one you know who has a baby then she could go round their house and feed baby,change nappies get up countless times during the night,cause i bet if she did that it will make her change her mind for abit

Answer 2

A bigger question is why either of you would want a baby in the first place.
I would strongly advise AGAINST even trying. What you feel at 16 will change later in life - I can assure you of that.
I am equally concerned about your desire to, "... give her everything and anything that i can." It's really nice to be loved and cared for but a mature relationship is based on both parties getting their needs met. If you have completely sacrificed your own needs, goals, plans and ideas just to give her everything then you are asking for Trouble (note the proper noun status). Besides, just how much is everything anyway? If you continually give in to whatever your girlfriend wants, then she will forever define what everything is and it will, one day soon, be more than you can give. If, by that time, you already have a baby, then things become a lot uglier...
It's a very good sign to see you questioning the rationale of your girlfriend's intense desire to have a baby. It isn't because either of you is 16 years of age - rather, it's a question of maturity, security and expectations. If she cannot (or, more likely, will not) consider your needs, then, I agree with what other answerers have said...RUN! Don't walk, RUN AS FAST YOU CAN!!!

Answer 3

DON'T get her pregnant-- trust me. She may really want a baby now, but I have two close friends who were in the same boat. One got pregnant (they had tried for 2 months) and her parent's freaked out. She was given the choice of an abortion, adoption, or to leave the house. She was in love and moved in with her boyfriend and his parents. They married a year later and now the one thing she regrets the most is that she missed out on all of the things their friends had: a big wedding, prom, college frat parties, and graduation. The other one got married and moved in with her boyfriend right after they found out. They were in love, but now they aren't. They most likely would have made it if they had waited, but the stress of the baby so young caused a ton of problems. Now she is 20, divorced with 3 kids, a GED, and is not able to get a good job because she doesn't have a degree.

I hope that you will not get her pregnant. This will make your life so much harder. Instead wait until you graduate, possibly from college, and are engaged or married.

Also-- be sure to always use a condom and one you bring. Girls have a funny way of having earrings in their pocket's that "accidentally" poke through the condom, which you discover after you have had sex.

Answer 4

don't risk ruining your life over a relationship that you don't know will work out. wait till you graduate from college. people change an enormous amount between the ages of 18 and 25. you may love this girl right now but you don't know how you may feel in 5 years. 16 is a very young age to be planning for your future with a girl.

Answer 5

No child should ever be conceived because one person wants to force the issue!!! She is way too immature and is obviously incredibly selfish! She doesn't deserve you if she can't wait. Also, you need to marry someone who is respectful and will be a GOOD mother! She strikes me as way too selfish to parent properly. She doesn't care about you, or the child she is trying to force into poverty. Don't be a push over. You know it isn't the right time or place, so drop her if she can't accept it. She sounds very insecure, and probably wants to tie you down. A baby is only an infant for a few months! They don't stay babies! Remind her of that.

Answer 6

Tell her that the two of you need to have educations and jobs so that you can provide for a baby. Graduating from high school is very important. In this day and age, it is very hard to get a job with just a high school diploma. You really need a college education as well. It's irresponsible for the two of you to make a baby before you are emotionally, physically and financially able to be responsible for it. Tell her that you won't even consider it until you are both out of high school.

Answer 7

dude you should really wait. Im 20 and have an 7 week old baby with my boyfriend, we been together for 5 years. when i was 16 i wanted a baby i am so glade i waited. Even though my baby is really good for me, my brother has a 2 months but cries every min of the day do you think she can handle it? i know i cant !
you should wait . wait think about te babys life first! can you give your child every thing its need? i am strugling every day just to pay pur bills! wait if your smart

Answer 8

that's her business if she gets mad. all you have to do is focus on your education. if u get her pregnant both of youll will have to quit school. she will have to stay home and you will have to work pregnancy calls for a lot of money, visits to the doctor and restless nights. i khow because i' a mother of three i wanted a child at 16 to but when i saw how rough it was to just be a kid i didnt rush to be a woman. i had my first child at the age of 21 and i'm glad i waited.please try to convince her that that is not a very good idea right now finish school first get a good and if you'll love each other as much as you say you do get marrid, buy a home then start your family.

Answer 9

Okay, you should NOT be trying! You are both still just babies yourselves! You need to GROW UP first!!! If she wants a baby that bad then you need to leave her, a baby right now will ruin your life because most teens are not able to finish school because someone needs to support the baby. Most importantly you are NOT READY for a baby at this age and there are TONS of health risks for both your GIRLFRIEND and the BABY for having a baby before her body (AND MIND) is ready!!!!!

DO NOT HAVE A BABY! If you love her THAT much then you SHOULD NOT be even TRYING for a baby now!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Ur too young!!! wait till ur career is on track after college! Bcuz ur going 2 have alot on ur plate! Having a baby is expensive! U should break up with her...its going to take a long time to heal..but it is going to be worth it! Plus ,there alot of teenage moms out there whos father to their child is not there.What if u and her brake up? And I know u want to be married to your childs mother,dont u? Plus u dont know if shes the one...To every man there r twenty women!~its a saying. U havent even gone through half of life!Also if u notice alot people who have children when they r young there party life goes down the toilet bcuz u have to take care of the baby! Ur not going to be able to go 2 parties anymore,in a long time if u have a baby! Don't get me wrong,I love children but when I grow up after college and have a good job i want to have 3 children with a man im going 2 love 4ever! Please think about what i typed! Good Luck on choosing!