i just got divorced; have no kids and i am 30. i want to find my soulmate so badly and i was so ready to be married that i can imagine my life alone..so i am afraid i will fall for whoever or worst tha i wont trust anybody after the pain i had. i know men are not the only thing but love is what moves me to be better,enjoy life,etc
2006-08-01 13:51:13 · 8 answers · asked by confuse06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are right no one wants to be alone. We have all been there, it sucks but I learned that all we have is ourselves. We came in the world alone and we leave alone. Don't be sad, life is too short and if you make yourself happy other people will be happy to be with you so keep yourself busy - do volunteer work that's what someone told me to do when I started to wallow too much -it helps. No matter how hard we think we have it someone else is always worse off. Also be very picky the next time around never settle for someone because if you do your life will be ruined and it's better to be alone than unhappy.
2006-08-01 14:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by inmyplace48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are off to a good start because you already know the two great dangers here.
I think the best thing is to "step back a little," as you would with a painting and look dispassionately at your life, your friends and the people you know. Most of all, I think the Zen approach is the best- don't try too hard, and SIMPLY LET IT HAPPEN.
Also remember that along the journey, "Mr Right" may not appear immediately, but "Mr Right for this Moment" might. Recognize the difference; be happy.
All the best.
2006-08-01 21:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live, but be patient and the right guy will come when you least expect it. I recommend you don't look or you'll fall in the hands of the wrong guy. You know if someone is right when you get to know the person. Trust in God. He makes us pass trials to strengthen who you are. You'll be amazed the person you can become.
P.S. This comes from someone that might and probably will get married to my best friend (now my girlfriend) I met in church 12 years ago.
2006-08-01 21:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by artmastercf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is time.. Give yourself time to heal and then get back out there and enjoy single life... Take what you have learned from your past relationship and use that knowledge to find your soulmate, because he's out there waiting for you.. Go get him.. Take care and good luck...
2006-08-01 20:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was gonna say I'd hook you up w/ my dad, but you're right there are more important things in life. Make sure you have a reliable, interesting, "fun" job, and have friends to enjoy life with. When you start out getting things together again, then look for love:D
good luck!
2006-08-01 21:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by smilenbspecial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray, don't try to hard, like it'll come when you aren't looking, and treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated so it can happen. It will. I started over at 49 and I'm 51 and happy now. I thought I'd die then. God Bless.
2006-08-01 21:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one more person would have told me time heals all wounds i truely thought i would wring their neck..at the risk of being strangled...time heals all wounds. You have to give yourself time to heal...search within yourself,know what it is you are searching for...hold your head up high...take the time to be comfortable with yourself...love yourself and love will find you
2006-08-01 21:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take each day at a time, somewhere out there Mr right is waiting, don't look so hard, live each day and enjoy who you are, when he finds you, you will know it
2006-08-01 20:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by widow1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋