We live together and there is no sex, Why?

Question

We have been together for more than 3 years and last year we moved in together, we come from 2 diferent worlds , she is german and i am Italian, when we met sex was great , but during the last year everything change , we have sex... lucky once a month or twice maximun , well she says that is because of stress and excess of work. does this really happen?To my sex is not evrything in a relationship, but dont know what to do in this situation, it will be cool if you can help me with some information tips etc. , i am being very honest so pleaase do not think is a joke and if you dont know anything ..........do not answer,,pls.



Thanks

Paul

Answer 1

Hey ok i think a woman looses intress in a man when they dont pay alot of attention to them like they used to happens in time together do u treat her like u did when yall first meet.Do things for her like u did then.. think about it..Alot of men dont relize that a woman needs alot of attention, sad but true..Do u help around the house lots of woman would jmp the mans body when they act like they care about things the women cares about just think about a man and woman think different the womans thinking about the house and chores the mans thinking al right im home lets relaxe lol true start trying to do things thats shes thinking of more maube it will help...things she usaully does do for her a little bet u will get some lol good luck..

Answer 2

Diagnose the problem. Examine your lifestyle and make sure you are carving out timeto have sex with your partner.
sexuality is a pattern, something that needs to happen on an ongoing basis or else other things will crowd it out. Like the old adage "use it or lose it"
Figure out how sex got moved down the priority list. Possibly spend less time at the office or learn to say no to other commitments.
Talk about your concerns. Remember you need to address this with sensitivity.
Stop complaining about what your not getting and start creating what you want. You are not a victim, you are an adult and can work through this problem.
Get creative with your sex life. Find new ways to put some fun, energy, and excitement into the relationship.(I don't advise a 3rd party).
Be Patient and more importantly turn toward your partner. come up with a plan together that you both can agree on and can be excited about, and will put into action.

Answer 3

Paul
I got married 5 years ago and this same exact thing happened to me. Sex was great for the first year then it slowly dwindled away to twice a month or so. I got her some new sex toys and that spiced it up a little for a while. Now its alright. I think work and stress can take away from a persons sex drive. I would suggest a book called 101 nights of great sex...it has some cheesy stuff in there but it has worked to add a little more flavor to the sex life.

Answer 4

You need to sit down with her and talk....tell her your thoughts and your worries...There is more to a relationship than just sex...you seem to already know that. She says that she is stressed because of work, etc. Are you getting along in other aspects of your life? Do you do things together, have a laugh and stuff? If the answer is no...then there is more missing than the sex and there could be a problem. My suggestion is to talk it out with her and see what she says. Be very honest with one another and whatever the outcome, accept it. If things are fine with sex being just twice a month, then thats ok...providing everything else in your relationship is good.

Answer 5

Bombhaus is totally right, stress leeches the sex drive right out of women. Talk to her about maybe changing jobs, working less or changing something else in life to get rid of stress. Buy her a massage and see if that helps. When the muscles are tense sex doesn't feel good anymore. Also you can help get her in the mood by rubbing her shoulders. Make sure you aren't requesting sex at inopportune moments and if it seems like its always an inopportune moment than yes she has too much stress.

Answer 6

Talk To Her, Try To get Her To Open Up, Maybe She Is Under Alot Of Stress, It Do happen To people In A Long Relationship. You Need To Know That She Still has feelings For You Or Not. Let her Know How Your Feeling. Try helping her Out.

Answer 7

well that is life when u move in with someone. my boyfriend and i had a wonderful sex life, i mean very exciting. but as soon as we moved in together it slowly turned into a chore. he was always too busy doing something or very tired from work or something always came up. we rarely had sex, maybe once a week. i asked him if we could talk about it because it really bothered me and he didn't even realize that it had slowed down. so i think u should talk to her and let her know how you feel and hopefully come up with a resolution

Answer 8

like you said sex is not everything in a relationship but it does spice up your life and it makes it more interesting :) you should try talking it out with your her..maybe sh'es just really tired or stressed out, if so then suggest going on a holiday for the two of you..rekindle the romance and love you have or used to have with each other:) just be open and honest with each other about you feel..it's important that you know a great deal about each other for you to understand each other :)

Answer 9

Well, "Paul".

She is most likely like most girls are...once they move in with their men, they hardly ever sleep with him frequently. And b.t.w...if all you care about is sex with her...just let her off easy and go date a stripper!!!

If not, just try as hard as you can to make her horny or something. Also...just ask if you are THAT desperate. But..if you are too nervous...do a bunch of nice things for her, and then ask her. Take her on a romantic date or something...give her flowers or something. And about the stress...she'snot lying. Women get a bit nervous and stressed out... so just give her a bit more time...then make your move!


g-luck!

Answer 10

The woman could really be stressed and not handling work well....intimate time is not always spontaneous, it must be planned for. Take the initiative and plan, which might include taking some of the stress of the woman's shoulder.