with it i need help, i miss her a lot i have been up for nights, i never got to say goodbye and i have not seen her sence 3rd grade then she moved to new york, we just talked every day, i need some help on what i should do.
2006-08-01 13:16:58 · 3 answers · asked by erin m 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I had a similar situation at your age. Only my best friend had a heart attack at 16. She had a heart condition and we all knew that. She never was embarassed to tell anyone that, and being young, we really didn't understand how serious her condition was. Not until she collapsed one day and died. I never got to say good bye either but what really helped were my other friends, to help me through it. Now I'm 29, it's been 13 years since that awful day.
What I do is I put a single red rose on her grave 3 times a year. Once on her birthday, once on Christmas and once on the anniversary of her death. As well as other various times when I can.
Your heart will tell you what is the best thing to do to get past this. What you need to realize that what you are going through is called the mourning period. That is the time when you are healing from the loss of a loved one. You don't ever have to forget her, your memories of her will keep her alive in your heart. Hold those there, you should never let them go.
As for not sleeping at night, I had the same problem after I lost my best friend. Go to the doctor if this doesn't resolve soon. He may be able to help you to sleep until this isn't so fresh anymore.
Good luck sweetie, things will get better.
2006-08-01 13:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently lost my sons ex girlfriend who was like a daughter to me. It is so hard. I wrote a letter and her mom put it in her casket. this was also hard on my daughter who is 10 so she wrote a letter and tied it to balloons and let it go to the heavens above for her. The only thing I can say is time will heal the pain you feel and I believe we will all meet again one day. and think would she want you to feel sad or live the life she would of lived? If that doesn't help you maybe you can talk to a priest, pastor or minister and they can help you. good luck.
2006-08-01 13:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would light a candle at my desk and write her a long letter saying everything I wanted to say to her. After writing it,I would read it out loud to myself. Say my goodbyes to her. Take the letter and bury it in a very pretty place that I could go to as often as I wished to.
Your friend is in another realm now. I believe in heaven and life after death. I have lost my best friend too, and I talk with her often.
2006-08-01 13:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋