I've been w/ my b/f for 4 years now and i saw in the history list that he registered and posted his profile on singles websites. I confronted him about it and he said he just wanted to see the response he'd get. Is this ok or do i have a right to be upset?
2006-08-01 13:14:18 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
to sdbiologist: we share a computer and i use the history frequently. don't think the wrong thing, i wasn't snooping.
2006-08-01 14:05:59 · update #1
dont become upset just yet, my husband emails me porn links because he gets bored at work and he has a lap top he can carry there. boredom can make people do dumb things. but do keep an eye on him. a close eye. if you are suspicious, get a friend to pose as a sexy stranger online and see if hes willing to say things to her as he would you, and see if he steps out of bounds. and if so, then yes, you can be worried.
2006-08-01 13:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not OK. Especially if you told him it bothers you and he does it anyway. This is a fundamental disrespect for your feelings. If he is not willing to provide you that security, you should leave. How can he think that it is OK? How can you doubt that you have a right to be upset? He is just playing you, girl. Even if he is just looking to see what response he would get, it opens up the temptation. People get themselves in bigger trouble with less temptation than that, believe me. Think about what your priorities are. You can always do better than him.
2006-08-01 20:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset If my boyfriend did that. 4 years is a long time for him to be just mucking around to see what kind of responses he will get. Tell him you want him to take his name off as you don't find it amusing and are insulted that he needs to seek attention from single women.
Good luck to you sweetie and I hope he gets his act together.
2006-08-01 20:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are negotiated. If YOU think you have a right to be upset, you have a right to be upset. If it were me, I'd be mighty upset and wouldn't believe for a minute his crap about wanting to see the response. That smells to high, high heaven.
2006-08-01 20:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by hlnrth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset! Obvious he's looking for more than to just see what responses he can get. Get out while you can! Or, if you really want to be a vindictive *****, go 'undercover' and see what he's really up to.
2006-08-01 20:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out or get out. I tell you this because if he is doing this four years into the relationship, he is not thinking about marriage. Sorry, but as a guy I've gotta tell you he just isn't that into you. Tough luck.
2006-08-01 20:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you snooping around on his computer? This shows that you don't trust him. Luckily, this proved to be a fortunate mistake. Don't date people you can't trust.
2006-08-01 20:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's NOT okay unless you two have an open relationship. I'm guessing that's not the case and, therefore, you have a boyfriend who will cheat on you.
2006-08-01 20:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset. If he is with you, he should be with you, not looking around at other options.
If my boyfriend did that we would have a long talk.
2006-08-01 20:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by Angyles Cerddoriaeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would get a little nervous about the relationship.
2006-08-01 20:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋