Should I tell my family I am bisexual?

Question

I know there have been similar questions asked before. However, my family is quite judgmental. I am happily married mother of two kids. My husband knows I am bisexual and completely supports me. I have been bi for 16 years now. Everytime my family gets on the subject of homosexuality in any regards, it always ends with many nasty comments. I even have a gay uncle who is partnered and they have two beautiful girls (help of science). When he is there, everyone is super nice. When he is gone, the disrepectful comments never seem to end. So many times I have wanted to tell them. I am just scared they will make those same comments towards me and my immediate family. I do live 6 hours away from the closest family member. So I can be me, when I'm home. My family likes to get together frequently though. Please help me decide what is best for all involved. Also, my children do not know either. They are 9 and 7. I will not lie to them if asked. I'll tell them when they face a similar situation.

Ever since I was old enough to want sex, I can remember my family having an open door policy. By which I mean, if you have a question or concern, ask and get a real answer. Have I got more info than I bargained for sometimes, most definitely. But I have always valued their opinions. It has created a relaxed friendly atmosphere for adult heterosexual conversations.

Answer 1

It always helps the cause when more people are "out" because then people know we are here, really when you're bi because bisexuals need to be seen more. People think they don't know anyone gay so the "gay issues" don't really matter to them. Only that's not true, they just don't know any or many out and proud gay, lesbian, or bi people. They also only see the sterotypes on TV till you are right there (their own) standing in front of them. Tell them. It is also good for your kids to know so they don't think you where hiding it because something was wrong with it, which there's not.

Answer 2

TMI! Your parents do NOT tell you what they do in the bedroom...for all you know, your father is gay and your mother is bi...it is just none of your business. AND the reverse is true. This is info your parents do not need in any way, shape, or form...why would you even consider talking about this to them???? This is not a life or death issue, so leave it alone. Good luck

Answer 3

There is no reason for your family to know. We do not have to share every part of our lives with our familes. You said your family was judgemental...that would probably be a huge mistake since they will probably not take you for who you are.

It is your life, enjoy the way you are. There is no reason to allienate yourself from your family.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

I like Stringdean's answer. Why do you feel the need to reveal this to your family? Your sexual preference is your business. If you know it's going to cause conflict, you should keep it to yourself. Just enjoy yourself and like who you are. There are alot of ignorant people who are terrified of what they don't know anything about but hey, you aint going to change that!

Answer 5

If you are an adult, your sexual orientation is none of your family's business.
Don't volunteer the information to your children, but if they should ever ask, don't lie to them.

Answer 6

You're a grown married woman, you should tell them. And then leave them alone, hyprocrites do NOT deserve respect.

Answer 7

i would you shoulnt be ashamed if thats what you perfer they should except you for who you are.be yourself and good luck

Answer 8

i bliv that its enough that ur husband knows

Answer 9

in the right time and right mood.....for you to be free

Answer 10

i would just keep in to myself..