If you adopted a child, what ethnicity would you want it to be?

Question

Would you pick a child of the same race, a radically different race, etc. Are there honestly any races off limits? What are some considerations and deciding factors?

(Sorry, that sounds like 3 questions in one, doesn't it.)

realmom4, i have no idea what you are talking about or what you are proposing. It really doesn't matter what an adoptee wants. They don't have any choice, now do they? Either they get someone who wants them or nobody. Which would you pick?

US policy doesn't FORCE families apart. People put up their children for adoption by their own free will, unless of course they are drug addicts or incarcerated. Sounds like you are misinformed. Thank you for wasting my time.

Answer 1

I would probably adopt a black child first but if I had multiple adoptions than I would adopt kids of other races, but I don't think it's hard to place white kids with families so I would would probably adopt more black since they're less likely to be adopted.

Answer 2

I would pick probably an oriental baby. They are very cute and easier to get than a white baby from the States. (I'm white and American). I guess contributing factors would be how long it would take to get one, how much it would cost (can you pay off the loan before they go to college and put you in debt again), if they have any medical problems, etc... I think a Russian one would be cool too. I guess what I would want is to take a child from another country and allow them to have a better life here, with the understanding that when they were older I would take them to their parent country and show them where they were from. Are any races off limits? Honestly in my situation yes. I have a slightly redneck family and I would not but a black child or a child from India, Pakistan, etc... into the prejudice that I feel that certain members of my family (and husband's family) are capable of. It would not be fair to them, even though I have no problems with them personally. I am close to my family, whatever their beliefs, and it would be hard for me to give up my families for a child I adopted.

Answer 3

Having given this some thought, I have to tell you honestly that it wouldn't matter one little bit to me. Once I adopted that child, it would be MY child, and it would be MY race, until the child was old enough to be curious about their own beginnings. Then I would help them learn everything they could want to know about their original ethnicity. They'd learn, like the rest of my children did, that the color of a persons skin has nothing truly to do with their quality as a human being.
I have no considerations or deciding factors. There is a baby needing a loving family? Give them to me. You don't have to even tell me where they came from.

Answer 4

why abuse a child by adopting it? why not help the natural parents out so they can raise their own child? no-one wants to lose their child, and punitive social policies in the U.S. that violate human rights keep on forcing families apart against their will.

when you give birth in Australia, no matter what age you are or if you are married or not, you get adequate social assistance and are NOT left in poverty. you are helped with education and job training, housing, even a phone allowance if you need it.

i know many adoptees who consider themselves to have been bought. they want their natural families, not someone they consider to be a substitute for "the real thing." (see link below)

if a child really has no parents (i.e. they are dead) and no extended family, then maybe adoption would be ethical, if birth records are not falisfied to say that the adoptive parents gave birth when they didn't. but why not permanent legal guardianship instead?

maybe adoption should be only between two consenting adults for inheritance purposes as it was in Roman times. why should a human being's heritage be wiped out and their identity falsified without their consent? yet we do this to infants all the time and think we're doing them a favor.

Answer 5

my husband and i have discussed the option of adoption if we are unable to have a child with the help of a fertility specialist. we have looked into international adoption BUT, we are only interested in having a child that is white, like ourselves AND NOT because we are racist but because i feel that would be best for the child! school age children are MEAN and i would not want it to be obvious that our child was adopted. when i was young there was a Chinese girl that was adopted by a local family. that poor girl was ALWAYS being bullied. kids look for things to say to hurt each other and the adoption was the only apparent thing they could hurt her with. they would tell her that her own parents didn't even like her enough to keep her... i'll never forget those things as long as i live. i can't imagine how horrible it would feel to think that in a secret place in your own mind... let alone what it would feel like to have people throw that salt into the wound!

Answer 6

My husband and I did adopt a child and she is of Mayan descent...my husband and I are also of Mayan descent but ours is watered down, our daughter's however is almost 90% pure and she looks nothing like us, she has the olive color skin etc while we both have fair complexion...to us race and ethnicity is not a problem, is more about the love of the child and the acceptance within our family...nothing else should matter.

Answer 7

I wanted to adopt a Romanian baby, they have so many in homes and they look so sad. But there are plenty from other countries the same, I think you would have to look at and cultural clashes that may come along as the child grows up.

Answer 8

I would adopt a child of my race, because you want them to be as close to you as possible, race wise. I would not look into anything else, that way ehenever they grow up there won't be as many questions to answer, like why am I a different color? things like that, and if you never had to tell them even better they would not suspect because they would look like you.

Answer 9

i imagine you may want to settle on your son as your own in each way. convinced he has diverse roots yet what concerns now that he's yours is that he feels well-known by ability of you and sees that he's area of you. My husband now has followed my 3 little ones and we completely settle for that they are his because the bio has no contact only as in a common adoption. My little ones will study of all 3 facets of their roots as time go's by ability of. so a techniques as your sons ethnicity, as you reported you in easy words do not comprehend. So supply him what you comprehend and settle for that even without your blood he nonetheless has your roots too!

Answer 10

I would probably adopt a Caucasian baby. The only reason is so I won't have to constantly explain myself.