lost my parents, hooked up with him, got pregnant, he lost his dad, he got into drugs, got pregnant again, fight all the time, left him, restraining order, dropped it, he's clean and working, but still separates everthing, thinks I cheat on him, constantly calling me a liar, because I lied to his face about leaving him while he was high, I tried explaining, if I hadn't left, the state would have taken our kids, so I left. He always interogates me, has to know what I'm doing, where, why, and with who. His ex-fiance has come between us many times, he denies it. Makes broken promises left and right. Never believes anything I say, and I can't do anything right by him, someone please help, if you have the number to a Medicaid accepting shrink, please give it up!
2006-08-01 12:51:54 · 22 answers · asked by MommyOf2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump him for me!
2006-08-01 12:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot decide who is the more stupid..you or him. You stay with a boob like this and ask what to do? Girl, you need your head examined as badly as he does. Surely there is somewhere you can kick his butt to...well, kick him right to his fiance or ex...whatever. What the hell are you thinking? Are you out to save his soul? Well, you are going to loose your mind in the trying. He is past your help, seeks to control you, all this "non-trust" stuff is a bunch of bull...he is trying to separate you from your sanity..he knows he has a good thing and he is scared to death of losing it...I would be too, if I were him. Get him out of the house, do not let him come back. He may be clean and dry, but he cooked too many brain cells along the way to ever be of much use...And you want THIS MESS to be the father of your kids???you have to be as nuts as he is. Yes, I know this will not be your favorite answer, but then again, I ain't in this for the points. I have NO IDEA why you are in it!
2006-08-01 13:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no number but u should do the reserch and find it! He is not a fit father or person for u to be with, u r doing all the work in this relationship. Do not stay for more! U will end up old and tiered, and he will end up even more pathetic that he already is. If u leave him he might have a shot at fixing himself, but together he can't handle it, hence the broken promises. Good Luck. it will be hard to leave b/c he is all u have known for so long, get support from where ever u can, he is pychologically abusing you, got to a women's shelter if you have to, but get out! Good Luck!
2006-08-01 13:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by lizardlover150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the nearest police station and get the restraining order reinforce. Second you might want to ask the Lord above for strenght to put your children before the both of you. You lost your parents and he has lost his dad. Just imagine, if he ends up FATALLY hurting you or you him! Then your children would have to feel the pain in which the both of you have endured. Is that what you want? Third stop bringing innocent children into this world that you and you b/f have created. You want to ask yourself is this truely the life that you want to be in?and is this the life in which you want your CHILDREN to be seeing? If you are not worrying about your own life, think of your children! I am a single Mom, any man that comes into my life I ensure that are WORTHY to be in my children life. Let this be your new motto Children first, the Health and Welfare Always!
2006-08-01 13:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad to read all the things you have gone through. This relationship with this guy is going to lead to your demise, and you have your kids to think about. Such a relationship will have long term problems for your kids. It will lead to them treating some one in their lives the same way as their dad.
Their grades in school may not be all that encouraging. This is pathetic that his ex fiance can come between you two and you have to be questioned as well as interrogated by him.
There is no easy answer to your situation with out long term pain and bitterness. This relationship is not working out and there is no need to fool your self in to thinking it can turn around.
The decision is yours to make as were you go from there as you have your kids and other things to think about. Make the best decision for yourself and Kids, and be prudent and don't do any thing that is against the law.
2006-08-01 13:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,, you and your kids deserve some type of happiness. I dont think you and he will ever have any type of happy medium here. He is not going to change and his interrogations has got to be playing a toll on you and its uncallled for. If it were me and I had to put up with that.. my kids and I would just simply leave. He is not your daddy and he does NOT own you. Life is too short to be miserable and sounds like you are having a pretty miserable time. Its time to make YOU happy for a change and to HEdoulbeL with what he things. Good Luck
2006-08-01 13:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you didn't get about he's a loser the first time around. Birth control is really simple. You got yourself in to this mess, why have you put up with him this long? Read your question and then ask yourself why on earth you were with this guy once let alone still are.
2006-08-01 12:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time his ex-fiance comes between the two of you, make a run for it! Take advantage of the ex-fiance distracting him so you can get on with your life for you and the kids' sake.
2006-08-01 13:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave, you don't need to put up with the emotional abuse, he'll have to pay child support to help with the kids and there is someone that will appreciate you and treat you better out there
2006-08-01 13:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk away from this basket of trouble. You can't change him, he has to change himself and want that change. Maybe the loss of you and the kids will turn him around, but in the meantime you don't need this trouble. He sounds like he is just steps from becoming abusive.
Run!
2006-08-01 12:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had so many specific references I'm surprised you even needed to ask the question. I don't see any redeeming qualities to work with, no signs of growth, and nothing worth hanging on to...do you?
2006-08-01 13:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋