my husband is hooked to his computer games. I have finaly snagged the computer from him and he's already bugging me to get it back.
How long should I wait before I give it back to him?
2006-08-01 12:47:19 · 21 answers · asked by Dread Head has a pet Zorro 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you his mama? Really, it is not up to you to punish your spouse!
Yeah, I understand your frustration so maybe the two of you need to talk about how you feel about it and try to work out a compromise. Perhaps a time limit, or a signal when you want him to give you some time or come to bed. Or maybe schedule some time for just the two of you that is free of such distractions.
If it is getting in the way of his share of household commitments, then bring that up so you two can reach an agreement that works for you both.
And if he's doing it in the middle of the night when you are asleep? So what! If it doesn't interfere with his life, then leave it alone.
Pick your battles or your marriage isn't going to last long.
2006-08-01 12:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you find out why he needs his computer games? How often do you two as a couple make plans just to spend time with one another? Do you ask him about his day at work, if it was stressful? If you do all of the above! Then think about it this way, he could be looking at porn, out with the boys drinking, or be on line chatting with perfect strangers for sexual favors! Instead he is playing a game! Does he work and/or help you around the house, if so, let him have his outlet! If not, then his buttocks needs to get up an get to work!
2006-08-01 19:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys REALLY need to talk and understand what each of you needs from the other. Marriage is about compromising to find the best solution for BOTH of you, not a tradeoff where sometimes he 'wins' and other times you 'win'. If that is happening, you are both losing big time. Be honest with each other and your feelings, talk about what you need to do and what you need the other persons help for. Good luck!
PS Video games can be a great escape. They can also be addicting. And, it could be that he feels that you may be "too clingy" if you're always getting in his way. Best solution is to TALK ABOUT IT. Communication is the key to ANY working relationship, between friends, at work, and especially in a marriage!
2006-08-01 19:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by tyghor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him something more interesting to do than play computer games. Rather than take away his games y ou need to make him more interested in some other "game". DO NOT NAG HIM. DO NOT SCOLD HIM. GIVE HIM ATTENTION....FOR EXAMPLE.....
Whenever he is playing, get dressed in a slinky skimpy sexy something, put on perfume, light some candles and sit down or lay down very close to him and just read a book, saying nothing.
If he doesnt get the message, you may need to get into counseling (if you have kids) or get another guy if you are kidless.
2006-08-01 19:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk to him about it. If you want him off the computer you both should go and do something. Get him away from the computer. Have dinner or just take a walk.
2006-08-01 19:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a second computer. End of story. You wouldn't try and sleep on a twin bed when you're married, would you? A second computer is a reality and a necessity in many households.
2006-08-01 19:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by codex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he learns some self control and agrees to a schedule for playing the games that works for both of you. Marriage is a negotiation so negotiate.
2006-08-01 19:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it back to him now. He is not a child and you should be able to work things out in an adult manner. If he is really addicted to the games then counseling is in order - He will resent you if you treat him as a child.
2006-08-01 19:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give it back asap because if u dont he will purshase another one or find a new way to entertain his self and i know u dont want that just have a little talk with him and let him know how you feel and you'll could work out a time frame for him to play and still have time for you.
2006-08-01 19:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by dameka d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list for him to do before he can get to his computer. Make an arrangement.
2006-08-01 19:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by sharkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋