What do you think of a house wife?

Question

I'm not for sure if I want to be one if I get the chance. I want to have a few kids (3 or 4, but not limited to) and I want to be there for them (especially when they are real young), but I think I'll feel like I'm dependant on my husband for everything which I pretty much will be money wise. But I also want a career. I don't know what to do. What do you think?

Answer 1

Plenty of former housewives are now waitresses because they didn't get a career or work even part time, relying on hubby for everything. Right up until he dumped her for someone younger who didn't have a "gave birth to 3 kids" body. You may think that would never happen to you, but they didn't think it would happen to them either.

Get some training, and work at least part time while your kids are young. It's also a better example to your daughters that you have outside interests. Keeps you from getting too much in your kids business. Nursing seems like a good choice if you see yourself as a nurturer, and you can always find work nursing.

Answer 2

Weellll, that's not a question there's a good answer to.

If you look at it mathematically, having the number of children you are talking about, and being home for them while they are very young, means you will be out of the work force for most of your younger life.

If you are fortunate enough in your choice of husbands that he makes enough to support you and a large family, I'd say you've got it made. Stay home until the last child is of school age, then go back to work. Or, figure out a job you can do part-time from home. Or, if you've got a really great husband, split your work days/childcare so that one of you is always home for them. You could arrange the occasional romantic weekend getaway for just the two of you, from time to time, to get alone time.

The down side is, most marriages don't last anymore. What is it, something like 50% don't survive 5 years, and if you look at 10, 15 and 20 years the percentage goes even higher. The kind of stresses you are talking about placing on a marriage can get pretty intense. So, your risk is that you will take yourself out of the workforce early on, and will have to acquire/re-acquire skills and/or experience in your field, to make a living for yourself (and possibly several children) if you need to do so. Your husband, if he stays home with the children instead, will face the same dilemma.

Your alternative is to have the children, but continue to work, putting them into childcare, so you can keep your career on track.

Unless you and your spouse are equally committed to your goal of working and having children, you are taking a risk either way. In all likelihood, you will both have to make a choice between having someone else care for your children, and keeping your own ability to be self-sufficient and employable. Not good choices, but some people make it work.

Answer 3

My mom's a housewife. She homeschooled me and all my siblings. When us kids were misbehaving and the house was a mess she would say to my dad "how about you stay here all day and I go sit on my butt in front of a computer".
But overall she's happy with her life as a mother and wife.
She says that being there for her kids is much more rewarding than

It may interest you that when my mother was in college she planed on having a sucessfull career and thought that a career was very important to her. But as soon as I was born that all changed (I'm the oldest) and she decided she'd much rather stay with her kids than anything else.

So don't decide anything quite yet. When your first son or daughter old enough for someone else to care for while you to go back to school or get a job, then decide.

Answer 4

i dunno, i think being a housewife is double the work of a regular job... to be responsible for taking care of (health, etc) as well as teaching and bringing up a "good kid".. that's hard work!! i definitely think it's worth it to be there w/ the kids until they're at least 5... perhaps once they start preskool or kindergarden u can get a part-time job while the kids are at school. i also think it's important to be involved in the children's schools, PTA, all of that... maintaining relationships w/ other parents in the classes, the teachers... it's all networking and patience and dealing w/ multiple tasks at once... to do that at the same time as having a 8-5 job is pretty hard!! u can take classes too, during the time kids are at school, or at night when ur husband gets back home... stuff like that. don't let urself deteriorate and not feel smart or successful, but don't discount what being a housewife is about. :)

Answer 5

My wife and I( both) currently work and I leave the decision up to her, if she wants to work it's fine with me, if not then okay. There were time's that she has felt dependent on me in between job's and I let her know that's why I married her to love and support her. When you first have children take sometime to be a housewife and mother then when you feel the time is right pursue your career.

Answer 6

It is so refreshing to hear a woman think this way.You should be applauded. That's the problem with most of the kids with problems. When I was a kid most moms were home.kids were on a schedule and all mom had to do was stick her head out of the window and when mom said come home, you went.There's nothing wrong with depending on your husband for money, he will depend on you for the home.

House wife is the most important job in the world.

Answer 7

I am a domestic engineer (housewife) and I do plenty of work. I "earn my keep" so to speak. I have a full day, raising kids, doing house work, laundry, shopping, bills, school functions etc. My husband has respect for me and what I do he does NOT look down on me intellectually or socially. It is up to you. I found that my kids are more balanced having a mom at home then being raised by day care workers.

Answer 8

Look now a days a lot of women get married have kids and have careers. You can get a job that doesn't take too much time out of you, and something flexible so you can skip work if there's a PTA meeting. It is possible to have it all!

Answer 9

If your husband is supportive, you can do both. You can start a home based business. Or you can work part time as the kids get older, then get back into full time gradually.

Answer 10

She is the light of the house. She brings color to our life and the family. The martyr, that bears all the sacrifices from concepting our their children, until they completely grows up. The caregiver, in times of sickness and difficulties. Our inspiration to strive hard and to give the best in life. She is a reflection of our loving mother.