It always happens to me...who ever I care about or who means the world to me either dont give $hit about me or they just leave me after gettin real close to me...why does this happens???
2006-08-01 12:05:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
cuz thats life n u gotta live with it. Life has many ups n downs..its just one of the downs. ! Dont care about people who dont care about you...I know its hard but thats how its suppose to be...plus cuz they're never meant to be there...cuz they're loser...bunch of idiots...they leave you cuz they never wanted to be ur friend...just was using you for something!!!
2006-08-01 12:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Get a Life !!! 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
take a good look at the people who u are caring for... are they responsible, good, caring people? if they aren't, be careful, u may either be attracted to people who "need help" (therefore, don't know how to help themselves), or you end up attracting people who want to leach off of you and then leave when they get what they want.
here's what i would suggest.. first of all, give urself major props for being a caring, wonderful person. that is awesome, not many people are unselfish and able to love or help someone unconditionally.
second, keeping in mind that YOU are a GREAT PERSON.... have some expectations from the people around u. that doesn't mean u are a bad person, it just means that u know what u deserve. since u are good to others, u Deserve to have people be good to you. don't keep giving and giving and forgiving people who don't appreciate your kindness. you may think the nicer u are, the more they will like u, but sometimes it's opposite; they think Worse of you, they think u are weak and stupid! WHY would u want to give ur love and time and support to someone who doesn't respect you???
third, keep distance between those who have shown u negativity, and surround urself with Positivity. find family and friends who can prove, and Want to prove, that they are there for u no matter what, want to help you, want to support you. those people who left u, i think u are actually better off without...u know? remember, if someone is willing to throw u away like that, instead of feeling bad about urself, be thankful that u found out that person was a jerk before u did any more things for them. never let those people bring u down.. continue being a Good Person, just be careful not to let them hurt u or use you. let this make u a Stronger person, that u can now use this experience to see and observe your friends who show similar types of unappreciative behavior, and distance urself from those people. take care, and never feel bad about yourself ok!!! you are great~~
2006-08-01 19:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could help you. That always happens to me. Last year was the worst. My sister ran away from home. My doctor ran away from home, My boss left his job for a better one. My favorite nephew moved away. My husband had an affair with my best friend. That was two for the price of one. I don't think I will ever get close to anyone. Good luck.
2006-08-01 21:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by tensnut90_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the law of life
it's whats to everyone trust me
i don't think you'll find an answer
sometimes you lose the people you care about and it does hurt
but you have to bounce back up and don't let that get to you
love can't stop the world from spinning but it's worth the ride
even if you lose a few ppl you love on the way.
2006-08-01 19:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by 2qut4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they left just for a change. Don't take it personally. Take it as an opportunity to meet new people. At least you won't get bored with the same old tired friends year after year.
2006-08-01 21:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell but you have to consider the possibility that you are fooling yourself and that either you really don't care about others or are attracted to people whom you are sure don't care about you and just play a game of deceiving yourself. It may be that you really are afraid of real relationships so you set yourself up for failure.
Like I said. Hard to tell.
2006-08-01 21:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Alan Turing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
caring for someone can bring the best of you and also the worst.
If you care, then it matters, so it will hurt if that someone leave you. For me to not be hurt deeply, i give love freely. With no expectations, without regard if that someone don't care or love me back. Coz when the time comes that someone leave me, i can still love her from afar and not be bitter. Coz if she leave me i know that she doesn't love me that much to stick with me, and that's not enough for me.
2006-08-01 20:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by wild cactus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of life-haven't you ever left anyone? I don't know the specifics of your situation but it's not uncommon. Hang in there,
you'll find the person you're looking for eventually. If it's the right
person,he or she won't leave.
2006-08-01 20:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have abandonment issues..seriously,( I mean this in the nicest way)..you need to talk to a professional about it..they'll show you it's your way of viewing things that's warped & it's fixable. Oh, & don't know if you believe in Jesus..but He'll NEVER EVER I MEAN E.V.E.R. leave you :) ~ something to think about. Ask HIM..He will show you.
2006-08-01 19:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by irolag100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people is scared of making close connection with someone that fit them alot ...
This is in most cases with womens - they even prefer completely difference at least in teen age ...
Anyway - look around - try to hear yourself when you talk , to see yourself in others view ...
well - if you still like you - then there is some wrong with people that you contact ..else - beter yourself ... ( maybe some cheat can be usefull too :P ) and try again ... :)
2006-08-01 19:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sun Sonic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't really care about you. They care about a being (themselves, or their ideal) which they project upon you. When they find that you do not match this projection, they leave.
2006-08-01 21:32:19 · answer #11 · answered by sauwelios@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋